I just want my say

[Shez18]

I am currently in a dilemma with two different situations. One is with my exh and the other with an ex colleague. Both making unfounded, unreasonable statements on social media and emails. I have been told to ignore them but I'm torn between ignoring and replying. Why should these people get away with it? Does it really make us the better, bigger person to ignore? Or does it just make us look weak and defeated? It wouldn't change either situation but I'm so angry that I'm being told to just let it go.

Block both. Drop the rope and don’t respond. If they are saying damaging things about you as a person on social media and referencing you the police is your way forward.

As above

What kind of things are these two posting?

I agree with @2021V2. You're unlikely to come out well or on top as a result of responding to them directly or indirectly.

How do you suppose it'd go?

ExH: Shez is a horrible person because of xyz
You: No I'm not, you're lying. Xyz isn't how it happened at all
ExH: No, you're the liar. Xyz is exactly how it happened

It's highly unlikely you'll convince either of them to change their opinion or retract anything public as a result of engaging with them.

At the absolute most I would send a very short simple email. "I am keeping a record of everything that is being said. If it does not stop I will be passing it onto the police"

If you rise above it, any normal sane person is just going to see their ranting for what it is and roll their eyes before forgetting about it.

If you respond, they’ll answer back and everyone will be watching you all wash your dirty laundry in public and will be pulling up a chair with buckets of popcorn. You don’t want to be anyone else’s entertainment. Nobody comes out of this scenario looking good and you’re giving the idiots exactly what they’d enjoy.

Thanks, I know all of you are right and I will hopefully be calmer tomorrow and just drop the rope (that's a great saying btw, not heard it before). Just want to scream at the injustice of it all. I'm sure that they will both be called out sooner or later.