To think I am really not being unreasonable over car parking

[Campingcarryon]

We are on a campsite & leaving in the morning. Our pitch is on a slight slope & DP has parked the car above the tent facing into the tent & our sleeping area. I have said I am not comfortable with the car on a slope basically aiming for where we are sleeping in case the handbrake failed- I know it’s irrational but I don’t want to sleep knowing there is a car above us facing us! He had a massive strop and said I was ridiculous & I have now moved the car so it’s not facing us! I know it’s irrational but aibu? He’s behaving like a dick and dismissing my concerns!

The equation that matters:-

Probability of event * Implications of event / ease that event can be avoided

The higher this number the more sensible it is to take steps to avoid.

In this case the probability is very low but the implications are very high. And moving the car slightly is very very easy so the number is high.

If your husband had to wrestle with a wild boar to avoid the teeny tiny chance then I’d be more sympathetic with his point of view. But moving a car slightly is not exactly taxing!

He’s being totally unreasonable.

You're right OP.

YANBU - DB had a drive with a slope. He parked up one evening as normal - hand brake on - then later that evening heard a loud bang outside and went out to find his car in the garden over the road.

Yep, I'm with you OP. This happened to my DHs car. Parked it in his usual spot at work, finished for the day and came out to find the car not where he left it. The handbrake had released, and the car trundled down the hill and faceplanted a fence post. One very dented car and one very annoyed husband! Always park in gear now

My car handbrake once failed in a car park, on a slope, and it rolled downwards into two other cars. The garage had over tightened it.

Well has he left the car in gear?

Better to be safe than sorry surely. YANBU!!

With the weather we're having at the moment I'd be wary of the car mud-sliding into the tent!

I wouldn't like it either Op!

@Clymene

Well has he left the car in gear?

I can’t vote without knowing this. Also, it’s no doubt going to affect whether the husband thinks OP is BU, I would assume.

I'm with you op I wouldn't be able to sleep knowing it was there. I have bad anxiety at camping though and have to make sure gas cooker is out of the tent every night, all plugs are unplugged ( up too this year I made oh unplug the electric hook up every night) I also have to check there are no knives around in case some mad person comes in and uses it to kill us 🤣 never thought of the car rolling on us though so il add that one to my list. 😆

I'd feel the same. A few years ago while we were actually away camping for a week there was a story in the news where someone had accidentally driven into a tent and killed or injured the sleeping occupants.

I made sure our car was parked close to the campsite road sort of as a barrier because I felt really worried the same would happen to us.
Totally unreasonable thought process but helped me sleep at night.

I’d rather look a bit overzealous about safety than the alternative. I’d have moved the car too.

YANBU. Next doors son had lucky escape when neighbours car at top of hill rolled down the street hit a wall, somersaulted and landed on top of the rear of neighbours son's car. He was in the driving seat and was unharmed but car was a write off.

My friend's dad was killed in a hospital car park by a runaway car. You're not being unreasonable in the slightest

I understand your perspectives and it's better to be safe

You are SO not being unreasonable. The thought of a car parked on a slope above a tent gives me the shivers. Glad you moved it.

Not at all unreasonable. It's just common sense, and a standard safety measure.

That is just good common sense.

I never understand people who don't take easy steps to reduce risk of rare but catastrophic events and rationalise this with quoting how rare said catastrophic event is. It's not like moving the car was a disproportionately inconvenient action.

backwards or forwards it could still roll unless manual and youve put it in gear

Sympathies for your wet pack up, OP.

God knows why he was stropping and being a dick when the adjustment, simply moving the car, was if no disadvantage to him.

I always leave mine in gear wherever I park, I believe this isn’t taught any more (God knows why).

Definitely not unreasonable. He's an idiot, it's just sensible having the car downhill from you.