AIBU to want husband to smarten up?

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My literally does not give a flying hoot about what he looks like. Never has. It's not even on his radar to think about his appearance.

This is fine most of the time as he works outdoors. He's hard working and lovely in other respects.

The problem happens when we want to go somewhere together, which is fairly rare.

AIBU to expect him to get a haircut once in a while, or trim his beard? He looks like a tramp. I just can't help being embarrassed being seen with him, is that really bad?

I buy all his clothes (and pay for them) because if I didn't he'd be ten times worse! I still can't persuade him out of his shitty wellies for the school run. His car is similarly embarrassing.

I don't want to be a nag but it's always really bothered me.

YABU, I’m afraid. As he has always been like this, it’s unreasonable for you try to change him.

Weren’t you embarrassed to be seem with him when you met him and were going out with him?

Hasn’t he always been like this?

A leopard doesn't change its spots. I don't think you'll change him, OP.

What attracted you to him?

Yabu and rude.

YABU as he has always been this way.

Well YANBU to be pissed off if he's just adopted this after not being like it before you married. But YABU if he was like this when you married him.

My dh is like this. He often says that I look nice but does not think.about looking ' nice' himself. A
Many.of his clothes are worn out ,faded.and limp..

Well what did you marry him for, then?

It's unreasonable to marry someone thinking that you'll change them. You have written that he doesn't give a hoot, never has, it's not even on his radar.

Why on earth did you think he would suddenly become invested in what he looked like? Frankly, if he wasn't interested when single and dating he was probably never going to be!