Leaving partner

[Lifecanbeastruggle]

First time posting. Posting here for traffic. Am I being unreasonable in getting my ducks in a row so to speak to leave my parter. It's going to be a few months before I can, but he's a prick. We have one child together who's about to start school, house is mine so no issues there. What would you need to have in place if you were going to leave your partner?.

You're going to leave your partner your house?

Depends if it's partner or husband. If it's partner and the house is yours then it's much less bother. I'd start moving away money from joint accounts, getting bills in my name for house etc...

@TheAverageUser

Depends if it's partner or husband. If it's partner and the house is yours then it's much less bother. I'd start moving away money from joint accounts, getting bills in my name for house etc...

Partner is in the thread title

Everything is in my name,amongst other things he's financially abuse so I'm pretty much reliant on myself financially. Just don't want to miss anything I may need to do. Not married.

Have you sorted out somewhere to live?

Is he likely to move out quietly or will you need support to get him out?

Do you have any joint finances/savings/bills?

Check what benefits you might be entitled to.

Childcare - are they already in childcare or will you need to arrange that.

Do you work? Are you able to increase hours to cover more of the outgoings?

Why would that be unreasonable?

Good luck.

@WorraLiberty

Have you sorted out somewhere to live?

The house is her's.

Keep all your documents (passport, birth certificates, driving licence etc) and any jewellery or sentimental items in a safe place. My ex took loads of random things out of spite when he left.

@TimeForTeaAndG yes but I'm not 100% clear whether the OP is actually leaving her partner, or if she wants him to leave.

OP, if you want him to leave, does he have anywhere to go?

If not, it might be reasonable to choose a date you want him out by and stick to it.

Thinking about how shared custody will work. Obviously he'll need to find himself and your DC somewhere if it's your house. So will he have time to do that between you asking him to go and him actually moving somewhere? You don't want him having to take DC to his mums box room or wherever for half the week.

Good for you! Make sure you have any important documents/jewellery/sentimental items hidden away. Any items you know he’ll fight for, make a decision in advance if you’re prepared to fight for it or not. And also think about what you want out of childcare help. Maybe do a quick online calculator for child support. Sounds like he’ll be difficult anyway but then you can always go through the courts for that. Do everything over email, you never know when you’ll need the evidence!!!

You just kick him out. Simple.

Thanks for great advice. I have spoken to him previously about moving out, but he doesnt. I'm sick of being his skivvy. I'll hide documents etc, he can be good verbally and no idea how this will own out.