Baby names

[Hlt87]

Please help

My partner and I are discussing baby names. We've picked the first and middle name of our baby. I know usually the baby would take his surname, but his dad (who he does not have contact with) has been to prison for child abuse, his brother is saying I shouldn't let the baby have his name, he changed his name to his step dad's so that his children wouldn't carry it on.
Should I double barrel it with my name and his or just giving the baby my surname. Or just give her his name?

The baby can have whatever surname you like - I'd give him yours if the dad has no contact.

Either your surname or double barrel.

Traditionally baby's have their mum's surname, fwiw.

I would stick with your partners surname. Your partners dad doesn’t own it and him doing a bad thing isn’t your partners fault.

I gave all 3 of mine my surname simply because I liked it better so I vote give baby yours

Give the baby your surname. Your body goes through the trauma of pregnancy & birth, you should absolutely give your child your name.

All four of my children have my name. I didn't consider anything else.

Your partner’s brother gets to make decisions for his kids. You and your partner get to choose for yours.

It’s not just your partners dad’s name. If he still has his name then it’s his name and it would be his name the child had. Nothing to do with a father he doesn’t have any contact with.

I'm assuming you're not married? In that case it's traditional for the baby to take your name. It's only in recent years that babies of unmarried couples have been given the dad's name. But whatever you decide re. your partner's surname/his dad's surname make sure you at least double barrel. Your name should be in there no matter what, it will make life so much easier if (and excuse me for being a bit of a downer, but I like to be pragmatic) you split up down the road.

It’s not really your partners brothers business what your child’s last name is. I would probably give your own name or double barrel, but the fact that your husbands dad is in jail doesn’t affect his name. I don’t think of my name as my dad’s name, and so associated with wrong things he’s done, I think of it as my name and associated with me.

It's between you and your partner. If his name is a particularly unusual, identifying one, I'd choose yours.

Mum’s surname all the way, regardless of circumstances.