Been blocked for a non issue

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Text Dsis to see if she wanted to meet up today. I took 45 mins to reply, came back to my phone as i was doing house chores to a message from her saying fine dont reply to me then....... I said sorry i was doing chores, just seen your message. She said don't bother with today and then blocked me!!

She has form for anger outbursts, i'm so sick of these. I've been away she hasn't asked me how that was, I text the other week about my niece being ill and checking she was ok and things, she didn't reply to me but i didn't give her grief.

AIBU to think this is a non issue for being blocked?

She sounds a little unhinged. I’d just ignore and wait for her to contact you.

Block her back and go NC. I have a DSis like this. Have cut her out my life and never been happier! No more of her drama and shitty behaviour. Bliss!

@Bagelsandbrie

She sounds a little unhinged. I’d just ignore and wait for her to contact you.

She does have anger issues and has been known to be volatile in the past to me and others.

@MadMadMadamMim

Block her back and go NC. I have a DSis like this. Have cut her out my life and never been happier! No more of her drama and shitty behaviour. Bliss!

Sometimes she can be ok but its always double standards. She can take days to reply but i take a small amount of time and all hell breaks lose. I also do find its me whos arranging to see her.

Honestly enjoy the silence!

Block her right back and if anyone asks tell them you’re done with her bullshit.

That's really bizarre behaviour... I don't know how you put up with that. I'd let her keep me blocked ...

I’d block her back and not speak to her again
shes a drama llama

Another vote for blocking her and just get on with your life. I have a close relative who exactly is the same dramatic type of person as your sister is and these people will never understands how much their behavior impacts others, they only care about the temporary satisfaction of taking their anger out on others so they feel like they ‘won’ and don’t give a shit about the emotional impact their behavior has on you.

I can also guarantee you 100% that they will control themselves around their boss or other figures of authority because they know they won’t get away with this shit. They use you as their emotional punching bag because they count on you staying around because you’re family. They take you for granted, treat you with disrespect and use you. You deserve better, there’s literally no excuse for this shit behavior.

Don't text her, whatsapp, and put her on mute. So you can check on her every month or so. Easy.

@Bagelsandbrie

She sounds a little unhinged. I’d just ignore and wait for her to contact you.

Yes or at least, impulsive.

She will probably unblock you tomorrow.

I'm a bit worried you need to ask, it suggests she's got some kind of emotional hold over you. You wouldn't accept that kind of behaviour from anyone who wasn't family I'd assume? Shared history and any blood ties don't mean you have to put up with her behaviour.

I have a dsis very similar

Always drama or outbursts

Everything so negative etc

She kept letting me down last minute for things and when I asked her about it she lost it and spat venom practically about how hard her life is and how I should be more supportive.

I just told her actually she isn't god or better than anyone else and not is she a victim.

Blocked her. Bliss

If you messaged her, she replied promptly but you didn't that's a little rude.

If she messaged you unprompted and you didn't happen to see it pop up on your phone, that's fine.

Yanbu if it was urgent you ring , does she assume that you have your phone glued to your hand and the only obvious conclusion to not reply promptly Is that your ignoring her?
If she doesn’t except your reply that you were busy it’s her issue ignore and don’t engage she just wants drama .

@LaBellina

Another vote for blocking her and just get on with your life. I have a close relative who exactly is the same dramatic type of person as your sister is and these people will never understands how much their behavior impacts others, they only care about the temporary satisfaction of taking their anger out on others so they feel like they ‘won’ and don’t give a shit about the emotional impact their behavior has on you.

I can also guarantee you 100% that they will control themselves around their boss or other figures of authority because they know they won’t get away with this shit. They use you as their emotional punching bag because they count on you staying around because you’re family. They take you for granted, treat you with disrespect and use you. You deserve better, there’s literally no excuse for this shit behavior.

Disrespect and use you, yes definitely! At the beginning of the year she used me for my DS furniture and said she needed some for her child so i sold it to her extremely cheaply. It wasn't cheap furniture either. The next day i saw it appear on the marketplace for a huge amount more than she brought for. So clearly didn't want it for her DS but just saw she could make money out of my kindness to her.

Absolutely ridiculous tantrum and not something to put up with. Don’t ask her why and don’t give her any attention as a reward for her dramatics. You could not be any more reasonable! 45 minutes!!!! Shaking my head at her.

If she has anger issues, is it possible that she knows that, and she's blocked you so she can have some space to calm down?

Well clearly she has had a massive over reaction.

But I don't think she was wrong to be annoyed. You text her, she replied and you'd left your phone somewhere and didn't acknowledge her reply.

I think it's rude to ask someone if they want to meet up and then not be ready to respond if they say yes.

I'd block her back and leave her blocked. I couldn't be doing with that sort of behaviour.

Ugh, can’t be bothered with selfish arseholes like this.

I'd put a stop to get drama and block her!

You're getting nothing from the relationship only losing money for your furniture!

Wow OP, just read your update and what you wrote about the furniture.
She really has no shame, does she.

I would ask myself if I were you if you would put up with this behavior if she were a friend of yours instead of your sister. The answer would be no, of course not!

Just wondering, are your parents pressuring you to keep the peace and is this why you’re putting up with this ? My mother tried this in the past, trying to justify my sisters abuse towards me and I told her to stay out of it because anyone trying to pressure me into putting up with abusive behavior from someone else, will be cut out of my life - real fast. That worked and she hasn’t even mentioned my sister ever since.

Some people just thrive on being knobheads.

My sisters fiancé is one of these people. He sexually harrassed me for years, and then got very passive aggressive when I got a bit older and called it out for what it was.
About 5 years ago, I made the decision to go V-LOW contact. Best thing I ever did.
Some narcists just love a drama-filled-tug-o-war. And sometimes, for the sake of your sanity, it's just easier to drop your end of the rope.

Let them boil over, like angry little teapots, On Their Own.

@LaBellina

Wow OP, just read your update and what you wrote about the furniture. She really has no shame, does she.

I would ask myself if I were you if you would put up with this behavior if she were a friend of yours instead of your sister. The answer would be no, of course not!

Just wondering, are your parents pressuring you to keep the peace and is this why you’re putting up with this ? My mother tried this in the past, trying to justify my sisters abuse towards me and I told her to stay out of it because anyone trying to pressure me into putting up with abusive behavior from someone else, will be cut out of my life - real fast. That worked and she hasn’t even mentioned my sister ever since.

Yes definitely my mum putting pressure on to keep the peace, even though she regularly says my sister is drama filled