To be annoyed at this covid situation?

[geddyw]

I'm emotional and totally ready to be told I'm being unreasonable.

Dh was working away last week. Supposed to have a week off next week.

I have 2 dcs from a previous relationship- one who has underlying health conditions.

Dh has a son from a previous relationship.

Dss was supposed to be coming next week while Dh was off work.

He's already been here for one week then gone home for a week. I always look after dss in this time and always feel his mum takes advantage of me massively but I do it because dss is part of our family. She will always ask Dh to ask me if I can have him at the drop of a hat.

As usual, I was asked to have dss early so instead of him coming on Sunday, she asked if he could come on Thursday while Dh was working away.

He was dropped off and within in 10 mins told me he felt unwell. Something told me to do a lateral flow test which came back positive.

Dh then returned home early from working away after I told him the result.

He rang his ex who told Dh he would have to stay with us now for the next 10 days. Also admitted that her other dd has a 'chest infection' but hadn't tested either of them. You could hear her dd crying and coughing in the background. Dss told me she had been poorly for a few days.

This has turned our whole week into kaos.

My dd was in hospital last week with her condition which Dh ex was well aware of.

My dcs now cannot go on holiday with their dad which he had booked and been so looking forward too.

I have come to a family members to isolate to get my dd away of dss.

Aibu to think ex should have come back to collect her son? I realise we would still have to isolate but we've literally had to move out of our home to keep my dd safe. I also realise that dss is probably better off with my Dh and he is just as important as my dcs.

I feel so upset for my dcs right now. Sorry feel free to tell me I'm overreacting. I'm just taken for granted by this woman so much and I've had enough.

If it were me, I would come back for my dcs straight away if I knew there was a vulnerable child in my dcs house who is in hospital quite regularly.

@purpleboy

If you think it will cause problems to just say no, then make up an excuse, you already have plans, no one can expect you to change your plans. You will have to be a bit firmer, but if your not ready for honesty then there are other ways around this. Good luck

Honestly I've tried that. All I get is 'can't you take him with you?'

Even with my smear test once lol. Or it's that they expect my mum(!!) to look after him if I can't.

I will say I am not doing anymore for the rest of summer when we have finished isolating so please dont ask .I need a break. Especially after dd being in hospital.

Soon as we are done isolating, my dcs are going to their dads so I can have time to myself. If Dh doesn't respect that and put his ex in her place then it just says a lot about our marriage.

I understand that's my dcs are with us all the time and I really do try make his ds as included as I can but this is just enough now.

Once your DS tests positive on his PCR won't his mum and DD have to isolate anyway if you give T&T their details. They've had contact with him 48hrs before his symptoms started. Might make you feel slightly better if her plans are thwarted!

I hope moving forward that your anger remains so that your boundaries are listened to.

Enjoy your dancing!