Hi, soooo my husband has been getting on my nerves the past few months. We have a 1 year old who still breastfeeds so I'm always on night duty. Thankfully he doesn't wake a lot. We agreed early on that I would be doing most of the night because dh works with heavy machinery and I don't want him to get hurt because he is sleep deprived... well it ended up with me being on night duty 100%, but this isn't really the issue. The problem is he falls asleep on the couch downstairs almost every night, and when he finally comes up 1-2am he tends to wake me and occasionally our son too, who I have to comfort then. I've asked him for months to come up when he feels tired and he keeps promising he will, but then he doesn't... because he "isn't an old man to go up to bed at 10" 🙄 he also has his alarm set for 20-30 minutes before he wakes up, because he likes to wake up slowly... never mind the fact that he wakes us up and while I sort out our son he is rolling around in bed comfortably.... After a fight last night he changed his alarm, but I wonder how long hat will stick.
He puts in very little effort at home, I do all the cooking and most of the cleaning. We agreed he'd clean the kitchen on the evenings (I try clean it as much as I can most days so he doesn't have to do too much) but once again, this rarely ever happens. He does work hard and long enough days, but so do I. I opened my business, I wake up 4.30am if baby isn't too bad overnight to get work done before he is up. I work while he naps and I work after he is gone to sleep at night. I work and work and work. And yet I'm still left to deal with everything else. Household, appointments, grocery, etc... the thing is this been going on for months and he keeps promising he will help more and he gets better for a few days but than it's back to square one. So far he does bathtime twice a week but that's about it. Am I unreasonable to expect him to do more at home and to feel unappreciated with all I do? I feel he has no respect to my needs... what do I do? I'm really at my wits end.