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Someone I'm close to is in a mess. He usually earns £600 a week. He has a few health issues and they have stopped him working the last 2 weeks. He's extremely low at the moment. I have been in regular contact with him and I did a food shop for him 2 days ago. He burst into tears as he had nothing in. He was trying to keep it to himself.

He is difficult to say to much too. I'm the only person he's comfortable saying bits too so I know I'm the only one who knows how bad his situation is.

So I've sent a link to him to universal credits for self employed. But I'm curious what other paths can He go down? His landlord now wants his rent. So you can see the problems starting to spiral. He has history of attempted suicide.

He is trying but his state of mind at the moment is making him struggle with simple tasks. So I'm trying to do all I can to help but I don't have money for his bills.

If anyone has ever found themselves here and know of ways to get some money whilst he's unable to work/looking?

I hope this makes sense. Thank you.

Does he not get any company sick pay?
Does he have any insurance against loss of earning he could claim?
Sorry, I am not knowledgeable in this area but I hope someone comes along soon who can advise.
Maybe get him to contact citizens advice too.

He's self employed and he's only been working again for 11 months in construction type work. So he's sort of just getting himself together and hasn't got any insurance for things like this. I do appreciate your reply. I am thinking about different options so I can try help him figure out stuff but I'm clueless.

I see. Definitely get him to contact citizens advice, they are really knowledgeable about what benefits / help he could get. You sound like a really good friend.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/benefits/

There are benefits calculators online
He could claim rent council tax etc
Food banks would help

I've been here. Helping a friend in some similar situations. Yes to food banks and other benefits above.

But please try to get him to link up with some kind of counseller or doctor. He may become emotionally dependent on you and it's not a good road to be stuck on.
You sound like a wonderful friend asking for advice,just dont take it all on yourself, he sounds like he needs extra help too

So you can see the problems starting to spiral.He has history of attempted suicide

This is what worries me. Hopefully he will seek professional advice too. You cant take the weight of all of that . Especially if this is just the beginning of his spiraling.

Thank you. He's mentioning calling the Dr's but hasn't. He said he is happy he has recognised it and is so far reassuring me he will get there. Its all very worrying and difficult. To everyone else he comes across quite tough and abit of a loveable rogue. But he's very broken inside. I am very caring and he never asks for anything from me I kind of made him accept food. It was just not something I could let him continue without. He's not particularly eating. I've just got off the phone to him. He's insisting He's OK but he isn't sleeping and finds the night really difficult. I call him every morning at 6.30.
He is very difficult to motivate and I have to think carefully about what I say. He can get defensive. He told me he has never been able to speak to anyone but he can speak with me. He has had councilling in the past and they said he suffers with grief. Alot of his pain comes from loosing people. He suffered after loosing a parent and his ex girlfriend a few years ago. He has said he's got a fear of loosing me too and it scares him.
It's all so complicated. But usually He's on a building site laughing with the lads. He's unrecognisable this week.
Thank you so much for the replies. I'll keep encouraging him.

Has he spoken to his landlord? If he's lived there a while and always paid on time previously then they may be willing to wait a couple of weeks while he gets sorted out