AIBU to want to say no?

[Whycantibeapuppy]

I moved abroad nearly a year ago, my best friend has been trying to arrange a visit and obviously due to Covid it hasn’t happened yet and won’t until safe to do so BUT she has messaged me today asking if her boyfriend can come. They’ve been together 6 months ish, I’ve never met him.

AIBU to say no? I am so excited to see her and have lots of plans, third wheeling her new relationship in my own house does not sound like fun to me. I also suffer anxiety badly which is one of the reasons for living and living remotely. The thought of having this stranger in my house makes me feel sick! I know that’s not her problem but I don’t know if I can handle that!

Just say no

I would say no aswell. Maybe say that you have been so excited to see her, that you just want to spend time with her alone, but maybe next time she visits she could bring him along? I don't think yabu at all.

@Justcashnosweets

I would say no aswell. Maybe say that you have been so excited to see her, that you just want to spend time with her alone, but maybe next time she visits she could bring him along? I don't think yabu at all.

I think I will try this, once I’ve been able to go back and have met him etc I’m sure I won’t have a problem but meeting for the first time and then being stuck together for a week! What if I don’t like him 😱

I wouldn't have someone staying over in my home that I haven't even met. Could always send her a link for a nearby b&b!

Definitely say no. Sounds like they are trying to make it into a holiday.

It’s a bit selfish to suggest staying at your for a week with her boyfriend whilst your single.

They’re still in the early stage of relationship and will want to be alone.

If she’s your best friend, are you able to tell her honestly how you feel, in a tactful way?

You're not unreasonable to want to say no but is it something that would upset your friendship? Are you at risk of losing her as a friend if you say no?

Could you suggest he comes a few days later?

Say no, this would be pants for me.

@whycantibeapuppy thats it, you may meet him and not like him at all! Then you are stuck with a couple in your home, whilst they are in the honeymoon phase, and there's no escape. I can't think of anything worse!