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To break up with my DP

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Iamincrisis · 04/08/2021 18:13

I am in a situation where I am at crisis point with my mental health (have posted two previous threads on this), and am considering breaking up with my DP.

After a really unsupportive conversation with my mum last night, I've realised that I'm surrounded by people I don't trust.

I've burnt myself out working while he gets to just bond with our DS, and I'm missing out on so much. If I was single, I could work on the weekends and get some financial support.

I don't know if I'm acting irrationally, but I need to do something.

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CardiOfDoom · 04/08/2021 18:33

In which case are you ok with the idea of 50/50 shared care as that seems more likely than DS 'definitely staying with you'? What's your housing situation, mortgage or rented and in whose name? I haven't read your other threads either but unless there's abuse or you feel DP is contributing to your MH crisis maybe now isn't the best time to make major decisions?

Merryoldgoat · 04/08/2021 18:45

But what’s the actual problem OP? Why do you want to split? What’s the trigger for your mental health crisis? What’s actually going on?

Because I can’t work our what’s wrong.

intothewoodss · 04/08/2021 18:48

I had postnatal psychosis OP. At one point it was recommended I go into hospital with my baby, but I refused to go because I had an autistic toddler that needed me. They were fine with that. I had regular check ins instead. Medication. Therapy over the phone.

Nobody will take your child away from you because you are mentally ill, I promise you that.

You are not trapped at all. You can leave. You, like your partner, are entitled to time with your child.

Iamincrisis · 04/08/2021 19:21

I don’t know I feel low I feel like I need it to stop I don’t know what’s happening anymore

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toocold54 · 04/08/2021 19:53

Have you posted about this before?

How come you decided to work full time and he stay home and look after the child?
Being a SAHP can be difficult.
Have you discussed about both working part-time instead?

toocold54 · 04/08/2021 19:55

Sorry I didn’t read that he lost his job.
So you want him to find another job to help you out financially? Which is completely fair enough!
Can he not find a supermarket job whilst your son is in nursery? It would be a start at least.

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