It’s the wedding of a childhood friend. Used to hang out a lot as children as our parents worked together and knew each other. This continued until we were around 15 then seemed to go separate ways. I remember lending her my ID several times as she’s a year younger than me,then I wasn’t invited to her 18th which hurt a little.
Over the years her parents moved away and we lost contact a little. I’ve seen her around 3 times in the past 10 years and honestly don’t really speak, except for wishing each other happy birthday.
I am including this info just to say that it’s not somebody I’m close with.
I really appreciate that she’s invited us to the wedding though.
It got rearranged a couple of times because of Covid, but we’ve had the confirmed date since May. The problem is I have very recently changed jobs. The wedding is in 10 days’ time and it’s hundreds of miles away in Wales, so I’ll need 3 days off work at the most.
I only changed jobs last week and didn’t feel that I could ask for a holiday so soon. If they even accept it wouldn’t be paid, so I’d lose almost £200 in wages.
I went on a family holiday 2 weeks ago whilst in my old job and I had to take unpaid leave for that too.
Aibu to not go? I have to tell her tonight latest as obviously it’s very unfair to tell her only a day or two before. The rest of my family are going luckily. I feel bad and do want to go, I know I’m not close to her, but still feel rude. However it’s a lot of wages to lose and it’s likely the job wouldn’t let me anyway.
What would you do?