To delete the whole lot ?

[adustinginaugust]

Of partners family off my social media ? I've had 5 people from his family delete me, all for absolutely pathetic reason, his brothers wife said it was because I wasn't family or a close friend, his uncle said because I didn't like his posts about tractors, both his cousins because I put up a post that I'd never put my mum in a nurseriing home ( my mum has suffered with anxiety all her life and this is a personal choice no offence meant to anyone ) and his brothers ex because at the time they were together I kept in touch with his other ex due to her having a baby with partners brother! My messages quite often get ignored when I ask how they are etc I've been left off family group chats ( the brothers partners have always been included ) this was for announcements like their engaged or having a baby etc, I've always joined everyone in on our special news etc, they are never interested in getting together unless it's their birthday then they're all over us otherwise they don't bother. would I be unreasonable to delete them all of my sm and leave it there ? I've not been treated fairly by them in the past
Mil is due to come soon and the stress it's causing me is horrible, I feel sick clammy every time she comes Aibu to cut them all off ?

Thanks for the replies I've decided to just block them off, the whole nursing home comment wasn't that offensive and I've always bothered with said cousin always remembered the kids bdays etc so I think was petty to block me for it

The nursing home comment would probably make me roll my eyes a bit as I think it's one of those things that people say when they actually have no idea of what the situation might be like in the future, same as when people say 'When I have kids, I'm never going to let them do XYZ'. But it all sounds far too dramatic for adults so I'd bin them all off.

I’n sure I read this last week

The nursing home comment is likely to be very offensive to anyone who knows from personal experience that it's not always that simple and there are some conditions it's damn near impossible to handle outside of a care home setting.

the whole nursing home comment wasn't that offensive

Well, you think that if you like, but as someone who had to move a parent into a care home when they developed dementia so badly that they were incontinent, unsafe to live alone and couldn't remember their spouse had died, I would read it, roll my eyes and think 'I hope you're never in the position where there really is no choice, because you clearly don't understand what it's like'. Quite a few people might see it as offensive.

You get the same response every time you post this. Its the third thread you've done about it. Please for the love of got get off Facebook, or get over it.

Not that offensive that you have to block someone! Someone who's meant to be " family "

@adustinginaugust

Not that offensive that you have to block someone! Someone who's meant to be " family "

You don't get to decide how much offence you've caused, that's for the offendee to determine.

Tbh if I had recently helped a parent move into a nursing home and an in law posted on facebook saying "I could never put my mum in a nursing home" I'd be inclined to delete that person. What a knob.

I would block you after the nursing home thing. Sometimes people don't have a choice and it was a dig, let's not lie here

I would think you were a clueless twit for the nursing home comment and then scroll on by. If I saw crap like that multiple times then I would delete you.
I think people who take your position on homes are rather ignorant. It can get to the point where it is impossible to safely provide all a person's care needs in their own home. If you would actually refuse to put your mum in a home if this unfortunately occurred then that would be neglect and would cause pain and suffering. Perhaps think before posting in future.

What sort of meme could there possibly be about not putting someone in a care home? At least be honest and say you were posting your own views

@user1471457751

What sort of meme could there possibly be about not putting someone in a care home? At least be honest and say you were posting your own views

This.

And I suspect there’s a massive backstory and that OP was shit stirring, but acting dumb about it.

The best thing to do is to change your settings so that their posts don't pop up for you and they can't see any of your new posts. That way, they don't know that you have "blocked" them, it just looks like you don't use social media as much. It then avoids any arguments.

Doh just seen how old the thread is and that OP has blocked. Sorry for reactivating it again!