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AIBU to go back to the doctor?

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georgarina · 03/08/2021 09:50

My 5 day old has gone from being clingy, crying if I put her down, hungry, waking up all the time, not able to be put down...to sleeping all day and all night. She literally won't wake up unless I pick her up and even then she's lethargic. She does eat but only because I force it and she constantly falls asleep in the middle.

I took her to A&E and they said her observations were all normal, temperature, heart rate etc. She cried when they undressed her and she had the normal number of dirty nappies so they said she was active and normal.

But we're back home and instead of screaming to be picked up I just put her straight in the crib and she was asleep. Yes she CAN be woken/made to cry but only for a second and then she falls asleep again. It's really worrying me.

AIBU to go back? I don't know who else to call.

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BingBongToTheMoon · 03/08/2021 09:59

Have you spoken to your midwife/ health visitor?

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georgarina · 03/08/2021 10:07

Health visitor is coming today sometime between 9am-6pm. I can't call the midwife because I left my phone in the uber on the way to A&E :/

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georgarina · 03/08/2021 10:07

I'm just so scared

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BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 03/08/2021 10:10

At 5 days old I'd be going back to the maternity ward, in most areas you can until you're discharged from the midwives.

Hankunamatata · 03/08/2021 10:12

Wait for HV and take it from there.

Hankunamatata · 03/08/2021 10:14

She may just be a very chilled out baby after getting over being born.

Does she wake to feed?

bloodywhitecat · 03/08/2021 10:18

So she's not waking to feed? Is she breast or formula fed? I would be wanting to get her seen again she is at the prime age to be developing jaundice which is easily treated but can be serious if left for too long.

Thebig3 · 03/08/2021 11:43

Was she small at birth? When she feeds is she taking a lot?

wavecatcher · 03/08/2021 11:47

Sounds like your doing the right thing by following your mum instinct. Def keep chasing this it doesn't sound right at all.

BingBongToTheMoon · 03/08/2021 20:39

How did you get on with the HV?

a8mint · 04/08/2021 06:08

I remember my first being like that. The key thing is a normal number of dirty/wet nappies. Everyone was like very dismissive like 'wait, you are complaining your baby is too easy'. I think probably getting over rhe trayma of birth or maybe anaesthetic or maybe jusr rhe energy needed for rapid growth makes them so sleepy. All mine were fine btw and soin i was wishing they were more sleepy

girlmom21 · 04/08/2021 06:10

When you say she doesn't wake - how long does she actually sleep for?
Is she having lots of dirty/wet nappies?

Letthelightoflove · 04/08/2021 06:13

@bloodywhitecat

So she's not waking to feed? Is she breast or formula fed? I would be wanting to get her seen again she is at the prime age to be developing jaundice which is easily treated but can be serious if left for too long.
What difference does formula or breast fed make?! Hmm
Dogvmarmot · 04/08/2021 06:33

@Letthelightoflove - maybe you can see how much they are feeding with formula.not as easy to judge in the first few days if BF?

polkadotpixie · 04/08/2021 06:34

@Letthelightoflove Maybe because breastfed babies are more prone to jaundice

unidentifed · 04/08/2021 06:35

If at all in doubt, go back and refuse to leave.

ButterflyAway · 04/08/2021 08:03

@Letthelightoflove The difference between breastfed and bottle fed is breastfed babies need fed a lot more frequently than bottle fed babies. My two breastfed babies fed every 2 or so hours, my bottle fed baby fed every 4-5 hours as it fills them up longer (and they generally tend to take more formula at the one time than breast milk). It’s a question all health professionals ask when you’re experiencing issues with feeding a baby, it’s not a comment on your feeding choices.

LemonRoses · 04/08/2021 08:11

Is your baby dark skinned? What colour is she? Is there a yellowish skin tone in natural light? Much harder to spot in darker skinned babies.

Emergency Departments tend to be lit by strip lights so hard to see. Push on a patch of upper chest or cheek - is there a yellowish tinge?

Specifically ask your HV about neonatal jaundice. Easily treated if jaundice is starting - and exactly the right age for it to become apparent.

welshweasel · 04/08/2021 08:14

My youngest slept at least 23 hours out of every 24. He also got a bit jaundiced. Make sure you are feeding at least every 3 hours day and night. We used to have to strip him off and tickle his feet to keep him awake to feed.

Letthelightoflove · 04/08/2021 10:42

@Dogvmarmot
@polkadotpixie
@ButterflyAway

Fair enough - I’m probably just a bit sensitive as there is so much judgement on mn

bloodywhitecat · 04/08/2021 11:44

What difference does formula or breast fed make?!

@Letthelightoflove it wasn't a criticism or a judgement, jaundice is an accumulation of bilirubin in the blood, newborns have an excess of it but formula feeding helps to flush it out as more fluid is taken in than with breastfeeding in the first few days as the colostrum in breastfeeding is a much denser, more easily digested food.

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georgarina · 04/08/2021 15:14

Thanks so much everyone, she went back to her normal behaviour and home visitor was happy. Never been so happy to hear a crying baby!

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