Would this freak you out?

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I don't know I'm bring a bit silly or not but something happened on Facebook earlier & it's unnerved me a bit

I'm v senior in a creative role with a national profile. Not in UK. My FB page is predominantly a work page, though not the official page of the organisation as we have a v active page for that. I use my page to share info about projects etc & I no longer post v much personal stuff.

My friends profile has changed a lot over past 5 yrs or so & now has people related to my field rather than just personal friends / family.

I often get friend requests from people in t the sector, not all known to me. I always check out their profile to see if we have friends in common etc

Earlier today a random guy sent me a friend request. I checked out his profile & we had 10 friends in common, all professionals in my field & known to me so I reckoned he was someone from that 'world' & accepted his friend request

Within a couple of mins a private message popped up from this guy saying 'hi, thanks for adding me.

I thought it was a little keen but I replied ' no problem'

Then he said ' nice to meet you '. Something was feeling off to me & I can't explain why so I sent the thumbs up emoj. He liked that with a love heart.

30 seconds later he sent a message saying 'you look absolutely stunning xx'

This was v weird. I ignored it. I had to go do something so shut down FB but it was on my mind a bit. I'm a 50 year old professional ffs!

When I came back to my phone later this guy had been all over my profile putting love hearts on my photo & love hearts on posts I'd made.

He wrote connects under photos asking who was with me in them - my husband of many years !

Any way I've blocked him but it's made me feel a little weird if I'm honest. What the hell was he thinking ? He doesn't know me!

I have a strange feeling that he may try to contact me by other means & it would be easy for him to do so.

Maybe my imagination us really running away with me but i think his behaviour was creepy & I've never had anything like this before.

not unreasonable
Reacting to all your foros is fking wrd

*comments not connects

It wouldn’t freak me out he just sounds like a chancer tbh, now that you’ve blocked him I doubt you will hear from him again but maybe in future just don’t accept adds from people you don’t know? Pretty sure on Facebook people can like your page or group without being friends with them?

The absolute audacity of men is always surprising to me.

He's just a chancer. Don't let it bother you.

I post a few things 'public' on my Facebook.
I had a random comment from perfect stranger like 'stunning xx' on a picture of... my unvarnished toes. In my Fugly sandals.

I think it's hilarious & sad effort. Reminder to be careful about what I make 'public' posts, though. Maybe some kind of honeytrap scam behind some such efforts -- why should women be immune to that?

I'm alarmed that you're using personal social media and talking about your work to anyone and everyone. You should probably keep your privacy settings a bit higher.

Can you check with the common friends if they actually know him in real life or if he’s done the same kind of thing to them? Does sound a bit weird!

@Sunbird24

Can you check with the common friends if they actually know him in real life or if he’s done the same kind of thing to them? Does sound a bit weird!

100% agree with this and was going to post same, but Sunbird got there first.

They may want/need to block him too

Men often do this on Facebook, they’re weird but quite common- I would just block, up my privacy settings, and move on.

He was grooming you and setting you up to be scammed. His profile is probably fake. You’ve done the right thing in blocking him.

@Monty27

I'm alarmed that you're using personal social media and talking about your work to anyone and everyone. You should probably keep your privacy settings a bit higher.

Why is that alarming?

You can choose to be as public as you like about stuff on Facebook. If you get a random weirdo trying to make contact it's a second's work to block them

I wouldn't worry OP, he's gone nowt I agree with the suggestion of checking with your mutual friends. It could be a cloned account of someone they genuinely do know.

YABU there are lots of these idiots online and just add everyone and try their chances. You did the right thing to block them.

It's just a subtler way to start version of all the stuff in my junk email folder in last 25 years from "" with subject line "I've been trying to get hold of you", & email content = "How do I look in this?" and a link to some phishing malware or porn site, etc.

May or may not be real sexy Russian-name females involved in those scams.

You can't be as open as you like if you're talking about work. Most employers have a social media policy.

You've blocked him, do you shouldn't hear from him again. It's just one of those social media things - every now and then, you come across weirdos. Block and move on.

If you've made it to 50 without experiencing a FB weirdo I think you've done well OP 😂

Creepy but very, very common.

Nobody should friend someone without being sure they personally know them. Being (apparently) a friend of a friend isn't trustworthy enough on social media.

I may have picked this up wrongly but get the impression that you are maintaining two Facebook profiles - one 'worky' and one more personal? If so (and apologies again if I have this wrong) - that's technically in breach of FB code.

Your professional stuff should be fully on LinkedIn where it's much more relevant, and you can set your FB 'friends' profile privacy settings in probably 10mins max to put some basic barriers up. It won't completely stop all the random friend requests but you will be much more in control of who can see your profile and contact you

Just like we all still have those FB pals who persist in sharing obviously scammy FB 'competitions' despite the many many red flags, there are still waaaay too many people who are indiscriminate in who they 'friend' allowing randomers like this guy to run amok.