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totallyfedup88 · 2021-08-02T16:27:07+00:00

I'm 8 months pregnant and my partner is going to a football match. AIBU to be a bit upset/annoyed that he's not even thought about me and the risk of covid given how many people he'll come into contact with? If I wasn't pregnant I wouldn't think twice but I just feel like he isn't even considering me.

aSofaNearYou · 02/08/2021 20:29

@NerrSnerr

The baby will be here in a month. It would really not have been that hard for him to have put his family first on this occasion.

You could also argue that about the OP's choice not to get vaccinated. The OP has put herself at the risk of covid by going against all of the evidence and advice.

Even if she'd been vaccinated, I'd be saying he should just not do this for a month.

I do understand why a pregnant woman would be nervous about getting vaccinated. Certainly more sympathy for that than a bloke who can't hold off going to a football match for one month.

brittleheadgirl · 02/08/2021 20:31

@totallyfedup88

I'm not vaccinated as I decided against it with being pregnant and he's has his first jab. No I've never posted about it before so it's good to know it's not just me who's been in this position! x

It was your choice to not be vaccinated! So the extra worry is totally self inflicted in my opinion.

clickychicky · 02/08/2021 20:32

@aSofaNearYou I agree. Loads of people prevaccinations basically isolated themselves as much as possible to protect their babies in the 1st wave. He can do it for a month if he cares about his child and it's mother.

clickychicky · 02/08/2021 20:32

He should be doing as much as he can to keep her safe and supported.

brittleheadgirl · 02/08/2021 20:34

[quote clickychicky]@aSofaNearYou I agree. Loads of people prevaccinations basically isolated themselves as much as possible to protect their babies in the 1st wave. He can do it for a month if he cares about his child and it's mother.[/quote]
And if the op cared about her child she would have got the vaccine!
Double standards or what? One rule for the Dad, another for mum....

HurryUpAndWait23 · 02/08/2021 20:37

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

I'm not vaccinated as I decided against it

Well, it's on your own head then. Sorry.

You took that out of context.

It's not long been announced that the vaccination is ok for pregnant women.
And she is well within her right to be a bit more wary about it while pregnant.
I'm very pro vaccine and I would have a wobble before getting it.
9 out of 10 pregnant women aren't vaccinated.

YANBU OP, I would strongly consider getting vaccinated ASAP.

AudHvamm · 02/08/2021 20:54

Has your partner considered that if he were to have to isolate due to close contact or get Covid he might not be able to be present for the birth? My trust are testing partners at the moment. At 8 months you’re obviously not due yet but I think it would be close enough to give me pause.
Double vaccinated people can still get and transmit covid, I assume the chance of both is higher if he’s only had one jab.

clickychicky · 02/08/2021 21:03

And if the op cared about her child she would have got the vaccine!
Double standards or what? One rule for the Dad, another for mum....

She is the one putting her life at risk not getting it so I imagine it has been a difficult decision for her.

But even if she was vaccinated I don't think he should be going out to football games.

clickychicky · 02/08/2021 21:04

@AudHvamm

Has your partner considered that if he were to have to isolate due to close contact or get Covid he might not be able to be present for the birth? My trust are testing partners at the moment. At 8 months you’re obviously not due yet but I think it would be close enough to give me pause. Double vaccinated people can still get and transmit covid, I assume the chance of both is higher if he’s only had one jab.

This is a very good point. Baby could come early.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 02/08/2021 21:11

It’s a choice not to have the vaccine and be pregnant in a pandemic. Assuming he is going to work etc then he is already at risk plus hospital visits and appointments obviously aren’t guaranteed covid free either I would imagaine.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 02/08/2021 21:18

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

It’s a choice not to have the vaccine and be pregnant in a pandemic. Assuming he is going to work etc then he is already at risk plus hospital visits and appointments obviously aren’t guaranteed covid free either I would imagaine.

This

lannistunut · 02/08/2021 21:19

It’s a choice not to have the vaccine and be pregnant in a pandemic. It is of course the OP's choice, but it also is a normal part of marriage to support your partner when pregnant and not make things harder.

There really was some mixed messaging around pregnant people and the vaccine at the outset and it can be hard to shake that straight off.

Bluntness100 · 02/08/2021 22:23

@lannistunut

It’s a choice not to have the vaccine and be pregnant in a pandemic. It is of course the OP's choice, but it also is a normal part of marriage to support your partner when pregnant and not make things harder.

There really was some mixed messaging around pregnant people and the vaccine at the outset and it can be hard to shake that straight off.

Yeah but the advice has been in place since April. She could he doujoe vaccinated by now. And yes men should support their partner but it’s not all on the man, the mother should do what she can to protect her and her baby

Anyway, it’s all moot, she is where she is, and she’s not going to be double vaccinated before the match, so the only advice is for either him not to go or they isolate from one another if he does. They both need to make sure they are taking full precautions where ever they go due to her significantly increased risk.