to ask dd1 to get beer for me?

[fryalot]

Last night, dd1 (nearly 14) was going into the kitchen and I asked her to get me a beer out of the fridge. She very kindly said yep, and asked dp if he wanted one as well, to which he replied "no, I'll get my own. I don't know why your mum can't get her own as well, you shouldn't be running around after her"

I was a bit as nobody does ANYTHING in this house except me. and it's not as if it was a major effort for her, she was there anyway.

So, seriously, am I being unreasonable, because I really don't think I am, and as such, I will continue to ask her to get me stuff if she is passing something I want.

I thought that was the point of having children...

Next time you put the kettle on, it's for one: you!

YANBU absolutely YANBU.

Clearly your dd is taking after you, and not your dp. Good for you!

now if someone could just pass me the remote control...

Just noticed your dd is almost 14 - gasp! My bro had this one licked when his dd was 4!

YANBU my dd has been passing me the corkscrew as I reach for a bottle of wine since she was two!

NBU at all. How odd of your DP. I ask my children to fetch me things (not beer because I don't drink it, and not wine because they might spill) like the dishcloth or the sellotape or whatever and they are only 6 and 3.

Yanbu at all, Its always the same though isn't it? You stand there cooking a meal, dishing it up ect. You all finish and you say 'can you clear the plates please' and you get several pairs of eyes staring at you as if you've gone round the twist

Oh I'm disappointed, I though you were sending your six-year-old to the Offie! Of course you can ask someone to get you something! What's DH's problem? Bet his mother was a doormat...

YANBU

when my DS starts whinging when i remind him to pick up his clothes or take his plate off the table, i tell him that being in a family is a little community and we all do things to help each other out.... and DD already has a couple of little jobs to do

am horrified your DH thinks that your DD is 'running around after you' by getting you a drink when she was going in the kitchen anyway.

at 14 i could cook meals , iron , clean and tidy the entire kitchen etc...making my mum and dad a drink if i was getting one would have been second nature

i still make my parents drinks when i go to their house

Your dd sounds lovely!

I ask my dd (11) to make me a cup of tea sometimes - she gets a real kick out of it.

I think that doing little things for each other is part of the "family glue". I sometimes ask ds to get his big sister a drink and a biscuit and take it to her while she's doing homework - and they always take the opportunity for a quick cuddle!

It's all part of living in a community. That's why I don't like pocket money being dependent on doing jobs - but that's another thread!

And I agree, this thread would be much more fun if it was about whether it's OK to send a 6 year old to the pub for a pint of gin in a Dickensian manner!

YANBU - our DS is 5 and he has little jobs to do & he always asks if he can help or get stuff for me. I especially like it when, at the end of the day, he says "glass of wine mummy?" (I don´t make him pour it for me btw) Unfortunately I´m pregnant so don´t take him up on his offer very often

you have got to be kidding!!!

tell him to make his own bloody tea, cuppa's, do his own washing...etc in future!

the bloody nerve of the man

yes seeker... definitely

well, I very nearly said that I was perfectly capable of getting my own beer, just as dd1 is perfectly capable of making her own tea, washing up after herself, doing her own washing, ironing and shopping but that would have come out as an anti-dd1 rant and she was being lovely, so I kept my mouth shut.

(hi J20, how are you btw?)

i'm ok ta, just about to go xmas shopping, my friends having dd2 for me, first time i've left her for the day

will catch up with you soon x

ooh, exiting! enjoy your freedom!

Hey Squonk, hows you? why is dp being weird? did you throttle him?

hi fred

yeah, he was being a bit weird. Think he was tired. And no, I didn't throttle him, I just sluuuurped my beer that I was enjoying very much while he sat there thirsty because he couldn't be bothered to get his own and hadn't let dd1 get one for him

(twas a small victory, but hey ho)

Seems your Dh has no respect for you.

Sorry, DP.

Not at all unreasonable Squonk. I put my wine glass on DD's back and she crawls into the kitchen, fills it up (not sure how) and brings it back

Soph73 - I need to train DD to be like your DS.

My 7yo DD mixes a mean gin & tonic, what's wrong with that? Much safer than making mummy a cup of tea