My 18 year old daughter has recently started a bar job alongside uni and one of her 25 year old male colleagues has took a liking to her. Me and DD have quite a close relationship, she tells me a lot about her life through text since she went off to uni (I think it’s because of homesickness).
What I know about this man is that he’s 25, lives with his brother, has this job part-time, and has a toddler who he doesn’t see often because of a spiteful ex (supposedly). At first DD mentioned it in passing not very happy that he’d come on to her and was clearly uninterested and I gave her advice on how to deal with it. But as the weeks have gone by he has grown on her and she has her first out of work meeting with him planned, a drink.
I can’t help but have an awful gut feeling about it all. She’s not naive and has a good head on her shoulders but she is coming out of the other end of years of mental health issues and I’m not sure this will do her any good. I thought it’d do her good to get a nice boyfriend but not one 7 years older with a child he doesn’t really see. I’m worried about her having to end up taking on a relationship with his child, drama with the ex etc.
I know she’s an adult and I can’t actually do anything, so I’m not asking for practical advice. I just feel a bit funny about it all