To tell her she just needs to leave?

[BlossomOnTrees]

My friend works as a PA for a couple who are very difficult.
Everyday there seems to be an issue. Friend has low confidence and health issues. The couple are very self entitled and take the P with her regularly.
Yet she does nothing to leave. Says she wants to but it's not said with much conviction and I feel like I am going to be sat here listening to this for years if she is not more pro active. She's been there 5 months now after being made redundant from a 16 year old yet it is clear this is not working out.
Aibu to tell her she needs to be more proactive?

It’s actually quite hard to leave somewhere once you’ve had your confidence eroded and you have health issues that mean you worry about getting another job.
YANBU that she needs to leave, I’m just saying it might not seem as easy from where she’s sitting.

It can be frustrating listening to someone complain about a job but not do anything about it. I was a sympathetic ear for my son’s job issues but he was actively applying for other jobs, and was thankfully successful and he’s so much happier now, as am I as I hated listening to him so stressed.

she should try to get another job before she leaves this one.
however unsatisfactory it is, it's much more difficult to get a job when unemployed.
try to build up her confidence and encourage her to look for other jobs.

Yes, you need to be more proactive at being proactive. Say something ffs!

Yes I do need to say something. She needs to be more proactive.

In the end, you can only influence your own behaviour and set your own boundaries.

If listening to her moan about something endlessly becomes untenable for you, you’ll have to put in place limits on time or on topics. It seems harsh, but the friendship is eroded either way, right? At least you’ll be role-modelling assertiveness for her when you let her know that it’s just too hard for you to listen to her doing herself harm by staying in a bad situation.

You can lead a horse to water, and all that.