To think what is wrong with men

[Tevion28]

I am a member of Facebook social anxiety loneliness group and saw one guy who was clearly lonely and looking for others to chat to so I sent a private message saying hi to which they replied hi back then they was asking would I kiss what would I do with them if I was with them right now.
Tell me did I set myself up for this and did I overstep the line sending a private hello.
I promptly ignored them and won't do this again but I'm thinking what is wrong with some people. I was just looking to make some online friends.

He was asking if would kiss him that should say

i don't know, I always found the concept of "online friendship" weird.

I am sorry you found a perv , there are lots of pervs and trolls online.

I don't have that experience in real life.

You didnt set yourself up for that all .
What a perv .

It's so tiresome isn't it. I am on a fb page for something and so many random blokes send friend requests or weird messages. I changed all my settings so no one can send me a friend request and any messages, they get blocked immediately. Sadly there's lots of men who think any attention or communication from women is a come on. They only bother with women for one thing and because they're so emotionally unintelligent, they assume everyone thinks like them

I know you can report members to group admin for this but I personally think thier lives must be a sad existence.

He didn't come across like this on the group either just somebody who seemed really nice and looking for friends.

Women do it too

Your correct comedycook

While it might be disproportionately men, creepy behaviour is pretty widespread on social media regardless of the participants' gender. If it's someone you haven't actually met or already communicated with a lot in a publicly visible discussion, you have to accept there's a fair chance they're going to be weird.

(To be honest, I believe everyone is weird. We're just all weird in different ways and you have to look for people who are the same kind of weird as you.)

I find it all quite disappointing and a bit of a blow tbh.

Don't take it personally, just report to admin, block and move on.

thier lives must be a sad existence.

They're posting in a loneliness group. It's fair to assume that their lives are quite sad.

When you're feeling lonely or vulnerable, often groups for exactly that purpose are the last place you need to be. By its very nature it's a pity party. I say that as someone in a similar situation, you need to be around people that will lift you up, not keep you in that place.

Orf1abc unfortunately I don't have anybody to pick me up.

I won't join any FB forums due to this behaviour from men. I can't be bothered with it. They get away with it as there's always a justifying excuse for unwarranted messages with an inappropriate/sexual tone isn't there? ie "women do it too" "they're just lonely" "they just want a chat" aka "women, be kind and accept it".

Never. I won't be told, so those forums are a complete swerve for me. Sorry you had that experience OP but I'm not surprised unfortunately

I agree with @Orf1abc

There are lots of FB friendship groups that aren't 'social anxiety loneliness groups'.

I'm sorry to hear that, and I do understand how you feel. But you can't call out someone else for a 'sad existence', when the reality is that many of us are in similar situations.

There are loads of positive supportive groups on Facebook, you just need to be cautious until you get a feel for each one. Crafting groups tend to be very welcoming, if you're politically aligned to a certain group those groups can be a great place to meet people. Look for something that you're enthusiastic about, something that brings you joy.

On all social media, I'm quite wary about engaging with men...sad but true

I was looking for an item in a game and a guy messaged and said he would send it if I sent a picture of my boobs. I was selling something on marketplace and a guy started sending sleazy messages after buying it. Looking for a Gardener, same thing, saw I was single and started being creepy as fuck. I have a million more stories like it.

They do it online because of the disassociation. They don't see us as real people, just a picture on a screen.

Coming off FB was the best thing I ever did.

Ooh. I thought someone would have already said 'some, not all men'. Of course its not and I agree with your sentiment. Sad really.

I’m in a few groups such as a hypothyroid one, which is mainly women and The Non Mum Network Which is obviously all female, a “xtown years gone by” one which is mixed but have never had any weird messages.

The place and circumstances where you meet and engage with men, or anyone really, will often tell you something about the kind of people they are. lf you join an anxiety and loneliness group then you will get people who have anxiety and are lonely and all the foibles which come with that. What do you expect! First sign of any conversation that you are uncomfortable with, you tell them it's inappropriate and block. End of.

It's a group for people with vulnerabilities, hence its members are prime targets for sleazebags. I think you should report him to the group admins and realise that some people join groups like this purely to target people for sexual harassment.

@AnnaBellaCruella

Women do it too

🙄 FFS, there's always one 🙄

I've never once received a random friend request from an unknown woman...I received lots from men, before I changed my settings