AIBU in expecting some care, thought and attention on special occasions? My DH just doesn’t seem to get it. He’s an amazing husband in every other way and yet it comes to my birthday, our anniversary, Valentine’s, Mother’s Day, celebrating a promotion.. any special occasion - he couldn’t care less. I get absolute bare minimum effort. He will buy me a gift if I tell him exactly what I expect and he will tell me how much it costs and expect the exact same amount spent on his birthday back. No suprise, no thought, nothing. I don’t feel valued and I’m not sure if that’s a bit unreasonable because he’s wonderful all other days of the year. Is this common? If I ask friends in our social circles, their partners all seem to make a fuss of them. I have in the past made a big fuss of him on his special days and to be honest I now can’t be bothered. How sad!!