To say, errr, no thanks (covid related)

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Got a mum friend who I chat to and meet up with quite frequently. She has 2 DC. One of them was tested positive for covid about a fortnight ago (no symptoms and is fine). As a family, they've been isolating since that test. Just as they were coming out of isolation 2 days ago, her other DC tested positive. She was gutted, thinking she'd be stuck in the house for another 10 day period after that latest test. I offered my sympathy and sent a present to her DC by post.

She messaged this morning and said, according to new NHS guidance, the rest of the family don't need to self isolate now as they've all been doing that already for past fortnight. It's only the one DC who needs to stay at home now apparently. So, can she come over to mine this weekend for a catch up?

Not a bloody chance! I've made my excuses for this weekend. We're both in work during weekdays so next week she won't be asking again.

Just wondered if any of you would be more relaxed than me? I've only had the one jab so far but even if fully vaccinated, think I'd still not go along with this.

If your that vulnerable I assume you won't be having any other visitors otherwise what's the point?

@LivingNextDoorToNorma ah! I see. That makes sense to me. Thank you for explaining it. I was so confused as I thought there was some medical reason why it was ok, and I really couldn’t understand.

Bugger the 'rules', common sense tells me no way!

Technically she’s right but YANBU, I wouldn’t want to have close contact with her til the second child’s 10 days is completed too.

This has happened to us and we’ve all been told we have to isolate for another 10 days. But DS got symptoms 5 days after our original isolation period ended so NHS say it’s a new infection.

Either way, I wouldn’t be having anyone round that was still in contact with an active infection, but that’s just me!

@monstermunch1 we’re all fit and healthy and DH and I double vaccinated and we’ve just had it and it was fucking hideous so I wouldn’t throw myself in front of it if I didn’t have to 🤷‍♀️ DS also has it right now, he’s 2 years old and really poorly.

She is right. If everyone else hasn't tested positive by the time the first isolation is up, they are free to go out and about. It's only the person who tested positive that has to isolate. My DD tested positive on a Friday, other DD on Monday, DS on Thursday and me the following Friday. DH never caught it at all and was allowed to go back to work after first DDs self isolation period. Because I caught it when we had been isolating 7 days already I ended up doing 17 days in isolation in total

No I wouldn't be meeting up with her yet, and certainly not indoors.

Think about it. If your kid had flu, or noro, or some other highly infectious illness, you wouldn't go round your mate's, would you? Even if your husband had already had it and you felt fine? You'd think there's a good chance you'll get it, better lay low until the house is clear of illness. Covid is no different.

@Abouttimemum doesn't make sense to avoid one person, you either mix with people or you don't, thousands of people will be carrying this and other viruses, that's just life.

I wouldn’t be taking the risk, no, even if she’s right legally. It’s a totally different question.

I would say no but tell her why rather than make excuses. Surely she must realise that people may be a bit concerned? I would be the same whatever lurgi had been going round the house - sickness, flu etc. Why run the risk if you really don't need to!

BC (before covid) grandson had a nasty cold, gave it to grandpa who ended up being treated for pleurisy.

I've always avoided folks whenever we've been ill in this house, it's just being responsible

We had to move a brownie session on time for the same reasons. Mum was quite happy to come along (and later contracted covid)
Just because someone's not caught covid the first time in the family, doesn't mean they won't catch it the second time.