“Child” home from Uni

[Besswess88]

Lighthearted (I love him).

My beloved son is home from Uni he is living here and he’s a lovely lovely boy, he’s 19 and will be going in Sep to flat share with his GF.

But OMG he’s developed some really fucking annoying habits.

Fine get up at 1pm, but please stop hoarding all the glasses in your room, there are only two of us here and there are no glasses, the tea towels/towel just need to be folded and placed on the radiator, not shoved down the back, how are you drinking 4 pints of milk day and not mentioning we are out of that (and bread) - when I work next door to a fucking huge Tesco and how, as a skint student has he managed to develop extraordinarily expensive taste in bloody food?!

Breathe.

Haha! Mine is home for the summer and I love him dearly, and miss him when he's gone, but things just migrate into his room - tea towels, ketchup, plates, cups, glasses, the soda stream bottles. The smell of toasting cheese wafting upstairs at 2am...

Omg the smell of his cooking. He cooked something the other day which smelt like actual shit.

He’s a veggie but he eats some really really odd food combos.

He cooks cucumbers ffs 🤢

Has he also developed the uni voice? The one where the last word of every sentence seems to go up? As though everything is a question? Even when it’s not.

No - but he knows everything about cooking and is derisory about my cooking (even though I used to run a fucking pub kitchen!).

How can you cook a cucumber!??

YANBU at all, but roast cucumber is really nice.

But it’s just … mush 😭😭

Mine came home at Christmas for a few days and never went back to halls except to collect his stuff (thanks lockdown, thanks a lot!).
Room full of wrappers, getting up first thing in the afternoon, subsisting chiefly on beige stuff from the freezer (20-25 minutes at 180 in the oven, whether it needs it or not).
I think he's done his washing 4 times since Christmas, and since nobody else has done it I dread to think of the state of his undies before they're deemed unwearable!
He's learned not to tell me how bored he is, because I can always find chores to keep him busy...

I think it is fair to say, it does take - ahem - some 'adjustment' when they come home.

dd was just polishing off a full meal at 4pm when I wandered into the kitchen today starting to think about what we might be having for tea. She then complains we eat our evening meal too early

As you say, we love them really but.......

He gets up at 1pm games all day (read does fuck all) or talks to his mates/whoever online then goes to bed at 9pm telling me how exhausted he is

I once had a starter of big prawns and sticks of cucumber very lightly sautéed in garlic butter - very good (basically the cucumber was a crunchy way of eating more garlic butter) but would have been horrid if cooked any longer.

Mine is back after completing her degree, and is at this point a civilised person who can make a nice meal, and not hoard crockery. The pile of (clean) clothes etc in her floor is largely a result of all her worldly goods currently being in one room so I'm ignoring it.

It's odd isn't it as I don't remember being like this. Now some of it could be me misremembering but I know we all ate our tea at 630 together. We never did separate meals. I was working as well in the summer so no sleeping in as I served breakfasts every morning in a b&b.

We eat separately as he is veggie and i am not, we do eat together sometimes esp when my other children come home.

YABU I love cooked cucumber! Cucumber, tomatoes, garlic, onions and a squeeze of lemon juice gently fried up and tossed with pasta add salt and pepper is amazing!

In her defence, my dd is working, and working lots of shifts which, on their own, do mess with meal times.

I was never like that when I came home for the holidays, I always had a full time summer job so no lazing about, although my mum probably still cooked for me as I don't recall cooking much for myself!

@Besswess88

We eat separately as he is veggie and i am not, we do eat together sometimes esp when my other children come home.

Not judging just commenting on the differences 25 years makes! I can see it happening with my children when they get there but it would have been weird back in my day (that makes me sound ancient!!)

You're all going to hate me...

Mine is home from second year. Pulls her weight at home. Cooks when work gets on top of me. Takes care of the cats and makes me cups of tea, goes to the shops for me and does laundry.

I worked every summer, and one particular one I remember I was doing 70 hour weeks, I'm not sure I ever saw my Mum!

DS washes up and does his own laundry tbf and he folds the laundry

@Besswess88

He gets up at 1pm games all day (read does fuck all) or talks to his mates/whoever online then goes to bed at 9pm telling me how exhausted he is

Why don't you ask him to get a job

He has a job, it’s just Saturdays though 🤣🤣

Dsd has just finished second year. Tbf the crockery hoarding seems relatively minor these days compared to when they were both mid teens and half the kitchen would be in their rooms.

Her tastes have always been fairly average, but according to her the sudden craving for luxury food is because she's been deprived of it at uni. Apparently even eating bacon and cheese sandwiches at 3am is a novelty because that would otherwise eat into her alcohol budget.

It was also nice to have random items return with her that I assumed had been lost or used.

@BackforGood

I think it is fair to say, it does take - ahem - some 'adjustment' when they come home.

dd was just polishing off a full meal at 4pm when I wandered into the kitchen today starting to think about what we might be having for tea. She then complains we eat our evening meal too early

As you say, we love them really but.......

Mine does this too, drives me mad. Basically we're all on different time zones. Plus soaking wet bathmats? And I am hiding the chocolate in the veg drawer.