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Leaving holiday early

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hullaballoo19 · 29/07/2021 08:40

Camping with family (me, dp, dd, sil, sil's dp, dn and dnephew). Weathers turned crap so sil etc decided to leave a day early.

My dn was driving dp mad anyway (she's a v.difficult child and grates on most people 🙁) and our tent flooded night before last so sil left us their tent to move into.

I'm completely fine with them choosing to leave. Dnephew is 3 and would be very difficult to entertain stuck inside tent while it's pouring rain outside (he's very active and fine if he can run about outside). It's a shame but it's one day early and meant that we can stay without all our stuff getting wet!

Dp is really cross that they left early, (doesn't seem to be based on anything other than 'principle') and is angry with me for basically 'being on their side' because I think it's fine. Aibu??

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MyOtherProfile · 29/07/2021 08:42

Why on earth is he cross? Makes total sense. I'm surprised you're not leaving early too.

Horst · 29/07/2021 08:43

I mean it’s nice they left you their tent but now you’ve got two to pack up and get back? Unless they took yours with them.

Otherwise his just having a grumpy man moment and leave him to his tantrum

Nobloat21 · 29/07/2021 08:43

Sounds great fun.

SnarkyBag · 29/07/2021 08:44

Sounds like your dp doesn’t really like them that much. The DN was getting on his nerves but she’s gone so can’t be annoyed about that so now wants to use them going early as a reason to be annoyed with them.

BeyondMyWits · 29/07/2021 08:45

It's fine. We have left a holiday early due to inclement weather. Why stay and be miserable if you can just go home and be less miserable. Why put yourself through it.

NewIdeasToday · 29/07/2021 08:46

There’s no ‘principle’ involved in staying on a crap holiday. Your DH is daft. Sorry the weather has been so rubbish for you.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 29/07/2021 08:47

Camping in the rain brings out the worst in men IME. My adult DDs like to recall the holiday in Cornwall when we were packing up the car in the rain to come home .... DH had an absolute hissy fit about being unable to get the last bag in the car, threw it across our pitch and stomped off to the toilet block. DD (about 7/8) calmly picked it up and put it in one of the foot wells.

Pinkdelight3 · 29/07/2021 08:48

I'm all for leaving holidays early and do so quite often if it's got boring and I'd rather be home. It's not a prison sentence and anyone can leave whenever they like. In the circumstances you describe, it's completely understandable. YANBU and I don't get what his problem is?

DaniellaDavis · 29/07/2021 08:50

Weather is always a nightmare when it comes to camping, just have to be prepared for next time!

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hullaballoo19 · 29/07/2021 08:50

@Horst they were going to be leaving their tent anyway as we are supposed to be going somewhere else for just a couple of nights and their tent is much easier to put up than ours.

We're supposed to be dropping dd off at her dads - he lives far away from us but where we are now is a couple of hours from him - so can't just head home. Also dd struggles with separation and as she goes to her dad for long periods of time (3 straight weeks in summer holidays) I don't want to make her to go a couple of days earlier. The plan was to leave here today and camp near her dads for 2 nights and drop her off on Saturday. The weathers not awful constantly (it's lovely and sunny right now).

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hullaballoo19 · 29/07/2021 08:55

@SnarkyBag

Sounds like your dp doesn’t really like them that much. The DN was getting on his nerves but she’s gone so can’t be annoyed about that so now wants to use them going early as a reason to be annoyed with them.
@SnarkyBag he gets on really well with sil's dp but really clashes with dn and does find sil and her dp flaky and unreliable.

We go camping with them every year. It would be weird if he didn't come but I'd never make him if he said he didn't want to. He's said he won't come away with them next year and I said that's fine.

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hullaballoo19 · 29/07/2021 08:55

@BigSandyBalls2015 that did make me 😊

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hullaballoo19 · 29/07/2021 08:56

Thanks @NewIdeasToday it's fine atm, intermittently sunny/cloudy

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hullaballoo19 · 29/07/2021 08:58

I think his problem is that he's annoyed with them and wants to be mad at them about anything he can as @SnarkyBag said, but it's so unfair that he's cross with me about not agreeing with him!

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GrrRightBackAtYou · 29/07/2021 09:05

I’ve left hotels and self catering accommodation a day or two early before now. I don’t blame them for leaving camping early.
DP is BU.

Tiddleztheelephant · 29/07/2021 09:38

SIL reasoning sounds absolutely fine to me, is she aware that her dd annoys people? That's quite sad.
Did your dh have a rosy view of how camping would go and he's annoyed that you've all burst his bubble?

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