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Original poster

Work event for 350+ people

37 replies

Loloball · 28/07/2021 21:42

A work event has been organised, employees are expected to attend, not outwardly said but I think it would be frowned upon slightly if we didn’t attend. It’s for 350+ people at the end of august, mostly clients of the business. I don’t feel happy attending because of covid, but am not sure if I’m being unreasonable. It is indoors and will last approximately for four hours. Am I being overly cautious not wanting to attend or perfectly reasonable. Normally I attend. This year I don’t want to. I haven’t even set foot inside a restaurant, only eaten outside so perhaps I have lost touch.

OP posts:
GreenWillow · 28/07/2021 21:47

Yabu.

I mean this kindly, but the best solution for you would be to seek some help for your anxiety around this issue.

It’s not your fault at all, the blame lies with the government and their manipulative ‘nudge’ tactics to frighten the population into submission.

It’s hardly surprising that many people are struggling to turn on the sixpence that they are being required to.

GrrRightBackAtYou · 28/07/2021 21:49

YANBU
I wouldn’t be in a room with 350+ people.

FunMcCool · 28/07/2021 21:50

Are you CEV? And you or will you be double vaccinated?

Carrott21 · 28/07/2021 21:51

I wouldn't fancy it atm, but things are changing all the time.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 28/07/2021 21:52

Not a chance I would be going, if they thought less of me then so be it. I imagine others will not be liking the idea either OP.

Invisimamma · 28/07/2021 21:53

I wouldn't be doing it, unless everyone attending was wearing masks and asked to test beforehand.

Mixing with a few close family or friends, is very different from 350 strangers.

I live in Scotland where events like that aren't permitted yet.

Original poster
Loloball · 28/07/2021 21:54

Not CEV but have a parent who is. Yes to being double jabbed, although I do know people who have also been and have been terribly poorly with it, but not hospitalised. I probably do need some kind of shake to get back to normal, but being trapped in a room with everyone is surely a bad idea. There will be zero social distancing I’m sure after everyone has been drinking. Thanks for everyone’s input.

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chunderwunder · 28/07/2021 21:55

@GreenWillow

Yabu.

I mean this kindly, but the best solution for you would be to seek some help for your anxiety around this issue.

It’s not your fault at all, the blame lies with the government and their manipulative ‘nudge’ tactics to frighten the population into submission.

It’s hardly surprising that many people are struggling to turn on the sixpence that they are being required to.

Haha. 'nudge tactics'. Did you learn that from your anti-lockdown FB group? Bet you haven't got the slightest clue what it means.

And try telling the families of 150,000+ dead people they're frightened for no reason.

OP, if you don't feel comfortable, don't go. 350 people sounds hideous, Covid or not.

Original poster
Loloball · 28/07/2021 21:55

@Invisimamma I wish they weren’t permitted here!

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RainbowBriteUk · 28/07/2021 22:24

@GreenWillow

Yabu.

I mean this kindly, but the best solution for you would be to seek some help for your anxiety around this issue.

It’s not your fault at all, the blame lies with the government and their manipulative ‘nudge’ tactics to frighten the population into submission.

It’s hardly surprising that many people are struggling to turn on the sixpence that they are being required to.

Idiotic comments. Do you know how many people have died? How many are positive with Covid at the moment?
sst1234 · 28/07/2021 22:27

You can lock yourself away forever, it’s up to you. But the world goes on so you will need to accept that you will be left out.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 28/07/2021 22:28

@GreenWillow

Yabu.

I mean this kindly, but the best solution for you would be to seek some help for your anxiety around this issue.

It’s not your fault at all, the blame lies with the government and their manipulative ‘nudge’ tactics to frighten the population into submission.

It’s hardly surprising that many people are struggling to turn on the sixpence that they are being required to.

Look at the amount of people who have died, the families and friends who have been affected, people suffering with long covid, people hospitalised. Look at what has happened around the world, speak to staff who have been on the front line.

What a stupid comment.

AntiWorkBrigade · 28/07/2021 22:32

Yanbu. Not that you’d be unreasonable if you felt comfortable with it either, but certainly I’d consider it an unnecessary risk. It also sounds like it would be a huge leap if you’ve not been going to restaurants even.

I really dislike posts that urge people to get help for anxiety when the op is simply more cautious. I don’t see anything that suggests this op has levels of anxiety that require professional help.

OnTheBoardwalk · 28/07/2021 22:33

I attended an intimate well known works event last week for 150 people

It wasn’t compulsory and we were asked to do a test beforehand

It was outdoors but felt very strange to begin with but felt fine after the first few minutes

I wouldn’t have attended if it was indoors and without the tests

Don’t go if you don’t feel comfortable 4 hours indoors is a long time

Doyoumind · 28/07/2021 22:35

I'm not overly cautious but 350 people drinking in an indoor venue with no precautions whatsoever wouldn't appeal to me at all.

Crabsy · 28/07/2021 22:38

You can use this website to estimate the risk that someone at the event will have Covid (look at global data). It’s obviously just an estimate based on regional data and some broad assumptions. covid19risk.biosci.gatech.edu/

Obviously what it doesn’t tell you is how likely you are to catch Covid, nor how ill you would be if you did. There’s other things to take into account like if any of it will be outside or whether there are areas where you could stand where you could maintain more of a distance from other attendees.

Blondeshavemorefun · 28/07/2021 23:07

Hope all will be asked to test before hand

I think as I worked through whole first and second and third lockdown that life goes on , it has to. But get your unease

Eleoura · 28/07/2021 23:12

Are you able to ask the venue or organises what covid precautions will be in place? How large is the venue, is it completely outdoors, distancing etc etc. Only then can you make an informed choice about whether to attend of not.

Eleoura · 28/07/2021 23:13

Sorry, just re-read and its indoors!!!

Lalliella · 28/07/2021 23:50

YANBU. I’m not even happy to go back to an office of 10 people. The idea of sitting in a room for hours with people who could be infected fills me with dread. I’m in a bubble with my CEV mum and although we’re double-jabbed I know it’s not 100% effective. I would refuse to go in your shoes OP.

MeanderingGently · 29/07/2021 00:12

YANBU. 350 people for four hours? No way. But I wouldn't be comfortable with that even before COVID, I certainly wouldn't be now. I personally wouldn't be going....and I wouldn't feel I'd missed out on anything either. It's my idea of hell.....

Lizzie523 · 29/07/2021 00:14

YANBU OP. Ridiculous

RealHousewifeofBarnardCastle · 29/07/2021 00:18

YANBU.

But if you think it’ll count against you career wise if you don’t go, accept enthusiastically and then either be unwell on the day and unable to go or say you’ve been pinged.

Sparklesocks · 29/07/2021 00:31

I think a lot of people would be uncomfortable. It would be potentially different if it was outside, or people had to test before entry etc, but that’s quite a large event.

Saoirse82 · 29/07/2021 00:39

YANBU. I know we have to get back to some form of normality but this sounds pretty hideous to me, I'm fine meeting with some family or friends but definitely not this.