To wonder about the path not taken?

[Opal93]

So I’ve been watching Netflix’s Sex Life. It’s a good watch, if you haven’t seen it! Without giving too much away it’s about a housewife who is happy and in love, but can’t stop reminiscing of her younger wilder days and fantasising. But it did get me thinking, I am very much in love with my husband and love my life and my two kids but we did meet very young and never did the whole dating thing. Whilst I love this, I do sometimes wonder if I have missed out much. I don’t have a wild past to look back on with nostalgia like most of my friends do. But then, I’ve watched them go through all sorts of shit and know I wouldn’t really want to swap with them. Aibu to wonder now and again about the path not taken?

I only watched the first 20 mins or so and had to switch it off. Just corny and awful.

Which doesn't answer your question I know! Sorry!

We all wonder now and then about how life would be different if we'd chosen a different path. Of course you're not unreasonable.

I think it’s normal to wonder, but you’d probably find that stuff is largely overrated if you were to magically go back and do it over.

It’s not really a path not taken, though, is it? As in you can’t guarantee that if you hadn’t met your DH very young and your past worked as it did that you would instead have had an enjoyable number of enjoyable ‘wild years’ that you could now look back on nostalgically. I mean, it’s perfectly possible that the road not taken would have led to years of loneliness and occasional bad sex, while you watched your friends being wild…?

It sounds like you got the best life without going through a load of crap. Well done you xx

Have you read the midnight library? All about this kind of thing

YABU be grateful you've not had your heart broken or bad experiences with men. Ime my life would be easier if I had met dh young and only ever been out with him.

Trust me, I wish I'd met my husband when I was young than some of the men I met in my 'wild' days. I'm still paying the price of one of them over a decade later. Totally understand what you mean as most of the time it was a lot of fun Would change it in a heartbeat to have had an extra 10 years of what I have now though.

Yes I do wonder about choices made or opportunities not taken. But never about my love life, I met DH young and he's a good man. I'm glad I didn't have to experience any not-so-good men along the way. Some of the stories on MN are so heartbreaking, I count my lucky stars.

I think it's reasonable to wonder but I must add that, I've now met what I believe to be my soul mate and I'm nearly 50.
I went through abuse, bad breakups, loneliness, just awful things generally and if I could relive my life and meet my DP 30 years ago I would.

It's better the way round you have it . Honestly.

Newpuppymummy no I haven’t is it good?

feelingmehtoday it does start very corny and I thought I wouldn’t like it but it does get quite dark lol

I think about it sometimes although I never used to. I fell into a bad relationship, and within that fell into a career that I didn’t intend to be in, and although it’s been ok, and I’ve worked in interesting organisations, it comes with its own glass ceiling (I’m an EA). I remember saying to a good friend that if I hadn’t met this guy I wouldn’t be where I was now, and she said “no, you’d probably be doing something better”. Sounds harsh but she was exactly right. Have since dumped the guy, but stayed in the career, and as I’m in the middle of peri menopause with all the anxiety and brain fog and forgetfulness that brings, I just don’t have the confidence to retrain. Ah well.