To think somethings got to have been said

[bluebird88]

I'm pretty sure I've been talked about ( slagged off ) I'm not a nice way, by my mil
I've been deleted off Facebook by my partners uncle who I have respectfully called uncle for over 9 years and the reason he gave was he thought I didn't like his posts about tractors! Absolutely silly excuse and he didn't delete any of the other partners who are same age as me,
His brothers wife deleted me off Facebook because I wasn't family or close friend and his other brothers wife ignores my messages also the ex who I was really good friends with ignores me too, none of them get in touch either. My reasons for thinking this is myself and mil have had a bit of a strained relationship since I stopped doing everything she demanded she tends to turn abit nasty if she doesn't get her own way, with his brothers ex mil used to moan about her all the time make us all believe how nasty his ex was then when it was going mil way she'd ask us to all make an effort with ex sil
Aibu to think she's done the same about me?

Are you hoping for different answers from the last time you posted this?
Reduce contact with her, get off Facebook, try not to get so dramatic.

It could be that MIL has systematically poisoned them all against you, but this calls to mind a quote "if you ran into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole". Could it just be that they've all individually decided they don't want contact with you?

I also echo getting off Facebook and stop putting so much stock into both social media and your in laws family.

Why do you keep posting this?

@PamTheSpam because I'm clearly struggling with it, I get moaned at if I don't bother with them or if I don't go to family events etc can't work out why it's so different for me when they can get away with it all

Just stop contacting/being in contact with them! Don’t get involved in their drama

Where is your dh in all this?

Delete Facebook. Seriously. You'll be much happier.

You've already had all the responses you're going to get. This will just be another thread of the same replies.

can't work out why it's so different for me when they can get away with it all

Because they are blood relatives. You aren't. Blood is thicker than water.

I would delete FB and completely disengage with them all.

(Not saying it's fair by the way, but that's why their standards are different for you as for "one of their own")

Op, from your previous post last week I would say if you are being controlled it doesn't matter what his family think about you. Remove yourself from this situation by ending it completely with partner

Honestly just block them all and cut them out of your life. You now have permission (if you needed it) from them to be completely non contact. They don't exist anymore. See it as new found freedom and enjoy it.

OP I understand why you're posting about this again as it's clearly really bothering you. The Mumsnet police are not in charge of what you or anyone else posts and can, quite clearly, just not get involved with another thread if they so wish, so don't feel bad about posting again.

I didn't see your previous thread but my first instinct would just be to go and ask these people individually. Have you done that already? If so, I'm not sure what else you can do other than move on really. If she has been slagging you off, they'll all find out eventually what she's like one way or another.

This all sounds so petty and exhausting. Just rise above it, and stop living your life/conducting your relationships on Facebook.

Sure it’s not anything to do with your own Facebook habits? Send a lot of FarmVille requests? Are you a MLM bot? Do you post a lot about what your star sign means?

Are you posting stuff on Facebook that's annoying people? I've had to delete people because life's just too short to consume all the bullshit they spout.

I have experience of family that sound as you describe.

The central person (in your case the mil) had some sort of bizarre control over the family. She got offended over bloody trivial shit or if she didn't get her own way. She'd tell people to stop talking to you and they wouls! she'd be foul about people behind their back then when she decided they'd been punished enough they were expected to pretend it never happened. The rest came back and nobody mentioned it or it started another sulk.

They all gave her so much power and I have no idea why. They feared being next I suppose. Although they'd all been the victim at one time or another. God knows why they didn't all just agree to stand up to her. Bloody fools.

If any of this sounds familiar then I can tell you that the only thing that stops it is the death of the queen.

I'm not advocating killing her by the way 🤣 but you should wash your hands of them and walk away. Their words, sulks, commands are irrelevant. They have absolutely no power if you simply stop giving a shit

Defo not my face book habits I was friends with the uncle for years before the falling out with mil because I didn't do what she wanted so defo somethings gone on, no defo not mlm or anything like that and sil aren't blood related to them either they are married to partners brothers x

You're puttting to much emphasis on Facebook, you need to relieze it's just a app and it's not real. Maybe delete it if it rules your life like this, it's not normal OP.

Just seen his other cousin has blocked me !