Was I in the wrong?

[Bighousebustup]

Today we visited a big stately home with gardens and things. We decided to go into the house and there was a man there explaining rules to people so maybe a few minutes between each entry. There was my family and a lady with her kids.

She walked up just before us so we held back to go in after her. Her phone rang so she told her kids to go play on the grass opposite and left the queue area and went down some steps on the gravel path. Not long after, whilst her kids were playing and she was still on the phone the guy called us forward. I looked at my husband and said maybe we should wait and he said she’s not here so let’s just go. There was no one behind us at this point so no queue as such.

Whilst he is telling us the rules of the house she suddenly shouts down the phone that she has to go as someone has jumped her space in the queue. By the time my husband and kids have gone in she’s in the doorway shouting to her kids to get in the queue and that rude people had pushed in and she hopes they would never grow up to be so rude and we were horrible people.

I turned to apologise and said I didn’t realise at that point that she was wanting to go in yet seeing as she sent her kids off to play and was on the phone. She started shouting at me saying of course I knew she was as she was there and we had seen her. I tried to explain that yes I did but as she walked away to talk on the phone I assumed she wasn’t ready to go in. After shouting at me some more I just apologised again and walked in. Everyone turned to look at me because they obviously all heard me getting shouted at and I couldn’t control my tears, my 5 year old looked really sad bless her. I felt so embarrassed as I’m not a rude person at all.

So was I in the wrong? I could have just stood and waited but I genuinely didn’t think she was ready to go in. I could have shouted down to her or walked up to her to interrupt her call to tell her she could go in I guess. Everytime I seen her for the rest of the day I felt like crap as she kept giving me looks and telling a friend ‘she’s over there’ and things, I felt really uncomfortable.

I’ve attached a terrible drawing to try and explain where we were

She was a rude twat but I’m getting fed up with all the OPs who don’t stand up for themselves. A nation of ninnies we are.

I would have told her she lost her place in the queue.

The only thing you were wrong about was not sticking up for yourself!
She sounds like a total fanny

Nope YANBU she took herself out the queue.

She sounds horrible. You did nothing wrong

Did the person telling you the rules not say anything to her when she shouted at you?

But yes she was in the wrong

The person who called you forward could have backed you up and pointed out that she was busy so he called you forward. Shame you were polite. She must be an embarrassing nightmare to know!

She sounds like one of those idiots in a supermarket who realises she forgot something as she reaches the till, goes off to get it with her trolley and kicks of because someone else is being served. If you leave the queue you loose your place. She chose to take the call and wonder off. To go inside whilst on her call would have been rude. You saved her the trouble of cutting the call short. She's just a moody cow.

No, she is an entitled cow bag. This is exactly the type of thing that keeps me up worrying when it happens to me. So from one worrier to another, forget it.

You gave her too much attention. I’d have ignored her and got on with my day. You were feeding her insanity.

Well she was being a twat but I’m more concerned you stood there crying, is there a back story in terms of resilience or something else going on?

Sorry a few things I’ve been asked, she didn’t shout at me in front of my husband, he had walked through the doors by the time she kicked off, I was firm with my apology, I didn’t stand blubbering but explained myself. I shouldn’t have said sorry again but it was awkward to just walk off whilst she was still losing her shit at me. I didn’t cry in front of her it was more when I got in the room and everyone turned and stared at me 🙈 I wasn’t sobbing crying, more couldn’t stop the tears flowing but went off to a corner to look at bits as I felt really embarrassed.

The man helping was a volunteer who looked like he was a man in retirement, I don’t think he quite knew what to do and just looked a bit shocked.

It’s so annoying as after the fact there’s lots of things you wished you had said/done differently but it was all so quick and took me off guard.

Some people are just horrible snd entitled op hope your feeling better now. You did nothing wrong.
She was a notch on wheels

A bitch! Not a notch!

The only thing you were being unreasonable for was apologising to the cheeky cow.

She walked out of the queue to talk on the phone and then yelled at you in public. She’s the one without any class or manners. Don’t give it another thought, anyone looking at you all won’t have been judging you.

Don't be so wet

LunaLula83 are you the lady who yelled?

@LunaLula83

Don't be so wet

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OP, never worry about people staring, they mean nothing. Stand up for yourself and ignore the bystanders. If I was there I would have stood up for you.

She’s a cow. Some people are just like that. It’s unfortunate you were her victim.