Super loud neighbours

[Quaranteenyweeny]

So I live in an end of terrace and me neighbours kids are SO loud. It seems to be right at 7pm when it's my 14 month olds bedtime. His room is right next to the kids room.
When I say they scream, I mean like horror movie scream! So damn often. I can even hear it on the monitor! After a crappy day I would just love to put my son in bed and not worry about him waking up for an hour or longer until they decide they'll stop. What can I do about this? The mother is lovely, we get on great by the way.
AIBU to ask them to keep it down?

YANBU to ask the question if it's unbearable!

My kids are loud. I live in a mid terrace next to a young couple with a baby about that age. 😳

If you’re my neighbour please do tell me. I try my best with them, but to be honest, I’m so used to their volume it can pass me by how loud they get sometimes. Although I do ask them not to scream, they sometimes get carried away.

Record it and play it back to your neighbour

YABU. It's only 7pm. Not like it's 1am.

Screaming at 7pm? Sounds like someone massively resisting bedtime. DS lets all his anxieties and frustrations out at bedtime, it's like he needs to be relaxed in order to process them, most days it just involves a lot of talking but on others it can mean prolonged "help I'm being skinned alive" level screaming.

Say something. When my kids are loud I sometimes say they'll have to go next door and apologise so if you're my neighbour I'll finally have to follow through on my threat.

Could you switch your 14mo's bedtime to 730 or is there anywhere else he could sleep? Even just switching his bed to the opposite wall and putting basic noise proofing measures such as wardrobes against the shared wall would help.

There is no need for screaming

Tell that to my autistic 8 year old!

Kids sometimes scream. How often and for what reason will depend on their age and their level of understanding. Unfortunately in terraced houses you're never going to have complete silence.

I’ve got an autistic 11 year old and loud neighbours affect her. Whatever the reasoning for noise I don’t think it’s fair to assume others should just accept it.

Switch bedrooms with him - if that's not possible then you could ask your neighbour if it's possible their end (and offer wine and help to do so). Be nice, it's 7pm and although annoying, kids cannot always be kept quiet. Be sympathetic to them having to deal with their kids screaming every night rather 👌

@BlatantlyNameChanged

Screaming at 7pm? Sounds like someone massively resisting bedtime. DS lets all his anxieties and frustrations out at bedtime, it's like he needs to be relaxed in order to process them, most days it just involves a lot of talking but on others it can mean prolonged "help I'm being skinned alive" level screaming.

Sod her childs needs then - he can just stay awake another 6 hours until you deem it an unreasonable hour to be screaming.

My post was about the timing of the screaming. If it's at 7pm each day then it's possible the neighbour is putting their child to bed and the child is resistant. Not sure I understand the rest of your post.

I would mention it to the parents. They must know how loud their child is.

The girls aren't autistic and they're loud every single night.
I've already moved DS bed the other end of his room, it makes no difference. I hear them over my TV. I can't switch bedrooms as not even this makes a difference. If I see her I'll ask her to talk to the girls about volume control after 7pm as I can't take anymore. Thanks everyone