AIBU annoyed at family

[MuseliMum]

Bit of background, I have OCD, exacerbated during covid (having therapy) and am strict with myself at following the guidelines. Family well aware of this.

My sisters boyfriends housemate tested positive for covid. Therefore, as far as I’m aware, sisters boyfriend should self isolate for 10 days. However they’ve been having contact with one another and went to a nightclub. My sister lives with my mum.

My sister was suppose to come over and look after my toddler tomorrow while I took my newborn for his first immunisations and my toddler was also suppose to spend the up coming weekend at their house.

I’ve now said no to both, as it’ll be within 10 days of my sister having had contact with her boyfriend within his 10 days, if that makes sense. Leaving me in the lurch for childcare tomorrow, although I’ve now sorted this. Family feel I’m overreacting and my mum is upset toddler now isn’t spending the weekend. I’ve explained if they want to go against guidelines, none of my business, but as soon as they want contact with me or my children then I will step in and say no if it’s recent. They are aware of this and their excuses are getting tiresome e.g. don’t understand the rules, heard somewhere it was 7 days to isolate although can’t tell me where they heard it, oh but their lateral flow was negative, etc. They are making out it’s my fault they haven’t seen us (this isn’t the first time this has happened) because I’m the only one following guidelines.

I’m actually quite angry as they know where I stand with the guidelines, if you want to go against that, fine, your choice but then whether you can come into my house is my choice!

AIBU?

Your house, your child, your choice. It’s not something what I would do, but that wasn’t the question!

No you're not being unreasonable at all. You've obviously been very clear with your family regarding your stance and concerns.

They have chosen to flout recommendations and restrictions. That's their fault, not yours. Them trying to minimise and deflect blame is quite telling. If it's not the first time this has happened, then they have no excuse. All the excuses are pointless... If they are not sure or not aware of restrictions, then it's their duty to educate themselves. It's not like this is a surprise... We've been living under these circumstances for many many months now.
If they feel aggrieved, they should have behaved responsibly. You have yourself and your childrens' well being to consider. They obviously aren't bothered with their irresponsibility, so leave them to it.

You are most definitely not being unreasonable - they are!
Especially as one of your children is a newborn about to have their first lot of vaccinations!
Stick to your guns op and hopefully they’ll start being a bit more considerate in the future!

They sound like numbskulls. How tiresome for you OP. Stick to your guns.

Thank you for your responses, I read my post back and of course I’m not suggesting you need to have OCD to follow the rules but it just gives an idea of how clear I am with them.

I felt awful while my mum was upset on the phone but it’s the reassurance of that not being my doing that I needed.

I think it’s very selfish of them and they use ignorance to justify their choices. My favourite excuse was ‘yes but it’s so and so’s birthday’ or when someone they knew had at least 3 support bubbles including my mums household ‘oh I don’t think they understand what a support bubble is’. So tell them! This person was in a job you need smarts for, so not buying it.

YANBU, you are just being clear and sensible.