Anyone feel like a lot of men prefer a ‘challenge’?

[Athena44]

I know two men who were really treated awfully and messed about (and dumped) by two women, one of the women cheated too, and 3/4 years later these men are still not over their exes admittedly.
One used to talk to me about her, apparently she was incredibly jealous, wouldn’t let him see female friends, paranoid and when she dumped him she told him she had never loved him.
Another male friend I had, he told me his partner was also very difficult and constantly accusing him of cheating, and there they are, still together years later.
I’ve never actually heard of a woman being dumped for being too jealous/controlling.

Another friend I have seems to dump her boyfriend every other month for his alleged wrongdoings but he always comes back and wants her to change her mind.
I’ve been rejected once or twice because I was ‘too nice’. I don’t let men get away with everything and I speak up, but I suppose I’m quite quiet and more laid back.

Anyone else just feel disheartened by stuff like this, I feel like this sort of relationship is very attractive to men, they love the drama and passion.

Men love women who value themselves. I don't think they like drama.

But is it valuing yourself to stop your partner having friends and making them send photos to prove they aren’t cheating?

I’d say it seems like they don’t value themselves very much if they are that insecure.

Some women are fannies, some men are fannies. And it tends to be these sorts who thrive on drama. In my experience, it's a lack of intelligence too.

You can’t group all men into one category and say they all like or dislike X, just like you can’t group all women into one category and say we all like tall, dark handsome men with bit dicks

It seems like you’re struggling to date and clutching at straws.

Big dicks 😂

@pinkcircustop

Big dicks 😂

Ooh, where?

Not in my experience, OP.

If this is so ideally they can hook up with those women who like a challenge and then go on to cause one another no end of dramas.

Just look for someone not into drama.

No, I think it’s a generalisation.

People find people with personality types that fit their own. So a woman who likes to create a lot of drama will fit with a man who likes to pander to that. More laid back people will fit with someone who is also laid back.

It will all start making sense once you realise that some people look for a relationship in order to have a focal point, or an excuse, for their own unreasonable behaviour.

My DH says one of the things he loves most about our relationship is that there is no drama or game playing.

IME experience, the men I know actively avoid drama fuelled relationships.