No idea what to do about cheating partner

[Mumto1yearold]

Me and my partner have a 11 month old. I recently discovered my partner on sex sites, sending images and messages to people everywhere. I am crushed and devastated it came from no where. He has little excuse other than he doesn't know why he done it. Says it was a one off which I dont believe. Problem is pur little boy turns 1 on Wednesday. He is asking to come round. This is all so raw for me as happened Sunday evening and he left yesterday morning.

Asking to come round? So if you don't live together, makes it easier to split up.
Say no to the visit; at one, your child won't be aware - do you really want your child to be in contact with someone that thinks it's OK to pay women for sex, and clearly has no respect for you?

He has always lived here I kicked him out when I found the site sunday. He wasn't paying for sex it was more of a picture exchange site. He says with no I tention to meet just did it for attention ect. My problem is I dont want to punish my little one by not letting him see his dad this week why I get my head around everything because I can tell he already misses him

Can he see DS elsewhere? Either rope in a family member or meet in a public place.

He comes and collects your little boy and takes him out.

Do what you can for him to see DS. But that does not have to be in your home.

Any 1st birthday celebrations are really for the benefit of the family, not the child, so you can easily cancel any birthday plans you had made

Could you ask a friend or family member to facilitate hangovers, so your ex can see the child, if it's too raw for you just now

handovers, not hangovers!

I would allow him to take his son for a few hours if someone else could do the handover on your behalf so you don't have to see him just yet

Honestly I would've let him, other than that he can take your child out for a while, I wouldn't have wanted DS to be away from me on his first birthday so I would've said he could visit for a short time, but made it very very clear that did not change my mind about his actions and if he so much as brought it up he could leave. I'd also make sure they're was someone else there, a friend of family member of yours

Thank you for all messaging! I said about him maybe taking him out for his lunch but he is saying he wants to be here in the morning to watch him open his presents. I dont owe him anything and think by saying take him park and for lunch os enough for me to offer considering how soon it is to what he has done. He wasn't thinking about our ds when he was sending images to other people