AIBU to think actually he just doesn’t care about me?

[Kellyfromtheblock]

I came back from a weekend trip with a friend today. Husband looked after the DC for the weekend. I said thank you (and have looked after them whilst he’s been away a number of times in the past).

He barely spoke to me when I got back. No questions about my trip. Short answers to questions I asked. Spent the evening on his computer alone.

When I went up to see how he was doing, said I wanted to spend some time together, he basically didn’t speak. I asked if he was ok. Said fine.

I said then I felt a bit sad and unloved about how he had been since I got back. He said nothing. I asked if he had any response to what I said. He said no. I said that made me sadder and did he think it was strange not to want to respond. He didn’t say anything.

I feel really unloved. We’ve been through some rough patches recently, but things were ok when I went away on Friday.

AIBU to think he just doesn’t care about me?

@ExplodingCarrots

He's sulking and punishing you for being away. Basically he don't like the fact you been out having a nice time. My dad was one of these.

Agree with this

Being emotionally abusive so you don't dare go away again. It's not normal OP and is not ok.

He's punishing you for daring to have fun without him. Emotionally abusing you to make you feel bad.

He is a cunt.
He is training you never to go away again.
He will be abusive in other ways.
Either laugh in his face or kick him out.
Perhaps both.

He could be just tired or as PPs have said he’s punishing you for being away. Either way don’t pander to it, stop asking him why he’s quiet and that you feel unloved etc just get on with your day. I’m sure he’ll soon tell you what the problem is once he knows his behaviour isn’t getting the desired effect.

@EmeraldShamrock

He needs an ego massage because you dared to have a nice time. I personally hate sulking men it infuriates me, I'm sorry you've found yourself married to one.

This!

Does he often give you the silent treatment?

Be warned men like this never change. Do you want to spend the next 40+ years like this?

My partner does this, don't live your life like this. You'll find anything that you would normally enjoy, ruined by either sulks or temper, before, during or after. It will start to affect your children too. You deserve better.

Has he come out of his sulk yet? I agree with the posters saying he's punishing you for having a good time and conditioning you to not go away again. What a child.

@Looubylou

My partner does this, don't live your life like this. You'll find anything that you would normally enjoy, ruined by either sulks or temper, before, during or after. It will start to affect your children too. You deserve better.

Please don't stay with this man, especially if you have children who will grow up thinking that dynamic is acceptable or normal

@Looubylou please take your own advice. Life is too short for you or OP to not have a happy home life it must be awful walking on egg shells all of the time

@Theredjellybean

I am. Going to put another side to this.. Maybe he just wanted some quiet time, alone if he has had kids all weekend. Maybe he was talked, touched out and needed to decompress a bit, and didn't want to sit and hear all about your weekend or talk about his. I'd be like this.. I'd just want to be left alone for a bit. And my dp coming up saying you're making me sad... Would drive me bonkers. Can someone not just be allowed to want to be alone without being accused of sulking. If a woman posted that she just wanted to go and lie in the bath in peace and quiet on her own after looking after kids all weekend but her dp kept coming in wanting to talk about their feelings... Well mn wouldn't say she was sulking...

But then surely you would say you need about of alone time, not just sit and give the silent treatment

He’s trying to punish you for daring to have a life