AIBU I don't want to spend my 30s like I did with my 20s

[pineapplecat21]

I'm turning 30 this week and I want to make positive changes.
I was a young mum at 18.
For 7 years of my 20s I was a drug addict. I managed to get off the drugs and move away from the area and stay clean for my kids sake.
But I lost all my friends and family. I've been a hermit of myself for the past 3 years and I hate it. I don't go out, my partner doesn't take me on dates, we have nobody to have the kids and I don't work due to chronic auto immune diseases that set in after I got clean.
I feel so down about turning 30. I have nobody to celebrate it with other than my partner. I would love to go out and go to the pubs and have a nice night the two of us but he won't ever plan anything like that. I don't feel like I have control of anything and it depresses me. I would love to write and make a living out of it but I don't have the energy.
How do I change my life so in a decade I can look back and finally feel happy? I don't want to spend another decade unhappy.

Is your partner still the right person for you? Will he support and help facilitate the fabulous 30s you want to have? Obviously there is backstory to this but it's pretty fucking shit he apparently won't take you out for your 30th!

Oh sweetheart. I bet you don't even realise what you've achieved and how proud you should be.

There's one thing that's jumping out as a problem in your life right now... Why doesn't your partner do nice things for you? Sure, childcare might be difficult but what effort does he make generally?

Congratulations on turning your life around! You deserve to be happy.