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Would you be able to see past the excuses/lies,

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Rosalie21 · 24/07/2021 19:22

An old friend got back in touch with me. We met up for a drink which was nice, although I think I was a bit quiet so I remember thinking I wasn’t sure if she would want to meet up again.

Anyway a few weeks later I asked her to meet up and we planned it. Then she cancelled the day before saying sorry she had to travel to another city to see her family.

I said no problem and we rearranged. Then, the same thing happened again, she cancelled last minute saying sorry I forgot I had after work drinks with someone.

It happened one last time, and I just got sick of it. I asked her to tell me when she was actually free and she never replied.

Anyway it’s a bit of an overreaction but a few weeks later I messaged saying I felt like she wasn’t interested in meeting up and disappointed that she kept cancelling.

She replied saying she was really sorry and the reason she hadn’t been able to meet was that she had had a big life changing event, not a death but something big, and that she had now recovered from it and was happy to meet.

I fully understood her news however I still feel a bit lied to? She kept on making up these reasons for cancelling last minute and now I know it wasn’t actually true even if I do understand her news. Plus cancelling a few times last minute is really inconvenient.

Would you meet up with her again and forget it? I still feel a bit unsure.

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newnortherner111 · 24/07/2021 19:30

Don't bother I suggest. If someone is flaky and keeps cancelling, for whatever reason, then it is not worth it.

Rosalie21 · 24/07/2021 19:33

That’s what I’m thinking, it’s still not on to be messing people about.

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Aprilx · 24/07/2021 19:43

I am not sure why you messaged her again after telling her to contact you when she was free. I’d have left it at that.

Rosalie21 · 24/07/2021 20:02

Well I put it as a question i.e when are you free, so I thought it would have warranted a reply.

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