I suppose I am sorry and upset but not sure I should be!
I was due to get married abroad, easy to access destination, return flights £50 and under. Accommodation paid for etc. Everyone was very excited, as was I.
However, Covid has obviously scraped all plans for it going ahead. We were planning to as it was this summer but due to rising UK numbers the country put too many restrictions on British travellers, so we had to postpone it.
My best friend booked her flight, she can change it until the end of the year for free but there’s nothing about after and the wedding is now next year.
I am obviously devastated and upset. DP and I are having a small legal ceremony now in the UK and friends are invited (we are paying for it all / open bar etc) and if no one wants to go abroad for the big party next year that is fine. My ceremony is in a couple of days and is local for everyone.
My best friend has sent me a random message asking how I am. I responded about some problems I’ve had, I’m in a very bad state, lots of anxiety and upset. She then responded that she’s really angry about the whole situation because I should have foreseen it being cancelled.
In my opinion, she took the risk, the flight was less than £50. She spends £50 on weed every week so I didn’t really expect it to be such a big drama. I guess I'm mostly sad because she has now sent this snarky and angry message a few days before my wedding, knowing how upset I am in general.
I paid for her dinner when we last went out which was more than £60 a head and was my treat to her, so in my mind I’ve already paid her back in a way. I’ve also paid for her dress and all the costs of feeding someone and giving them alcohol for both the hen party and my wedding day. I also definitely don’t expect any gifts.
I feel really lost, I’ve lost a lot of money too. Am I really that bad of a person? How do I respond?