up to now we havent said anything to her because we wanted to keep her sweet, as we knew we were planning building work, but once im in the house, the gloves will come off, i dont care if the relations are soured and she ends up hating us, we have spent alot of money on the house, and im not letting Rats loud digs spoil it!
You say that now.
I’d urge you to really, really think and reconsider.
Especially as you have children and this is your ‘family’ home.
I have had bad neighbours and with some people there’s no stopping how far they will go.
Having young children didn’t stop my neighbours throwing broken glass over my fence.
The rats actually are unlikely to pose much health risk to you and you’ll never succeed in killing them all anyway.
We are never far from a rat and poison has disastrous consequences further afield, like killing hedgehogs, which are now an endangered species.
You won’t get far with the noisy dogs either and if they are stressing you out now before you’ve even moved, well, you are going to be driven absolutely bonkers when you are living there permanently with tired children woken up by dogs barking and you and DH unable to relax and decompress of an evening because of said dogs barking.
It may well cause arguments and tension between you and DH aswell, living with our bad neighbours certainly did.
It’s up to you obviously but I suspect if you move in you’ll soon regret it tbh.