I need more confidence. How?

[Wafflethefuckinwonderdog]

That really. Need to get more confidence in workplace and personal life. Lack assertiveness and it's getting me down.

Pick out the person or colleague who is actually shit but no one seems to notice. Realise that if that person can do the job/activity then of course you can do it a million times better.

For example, my colleague 'sandra' is bloody awful but has recently been promoted because she networks well. So whenever I worry about getting a piece of work right, I just think "if Sandra can do it, anyone can!" Because Sandra is shit.

Fake it til you make it!!

I had to push myself really hard to confront ‘awkward’ situations.

I find having a bullet pointed list of my points very useful because if the conversation goes off topic you can regain control and bring it back to your points without trying to remember it all.

Useful resource here for improvement assertiveness x

www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Assertiveness

*improving

If you asked anyone I know they would describe me as massively confident, I am nothing of the sort, however I work on two excellent principles:

1. The spider principal - people you are dealing with are probably as scared of you as you are of then.

1. We all shit and breathe principal, nobody is better than me and nobody deserves to be treated badly by me.

Done me alright so far.

Fake it till you make it is a good principle.

I also think that you only really gain confidence in life by confronting and then mastering things which you previously found daunting. Pushing yourself to do things which scare you -- even if you fuck them up.

@thepeopleversuswork

Fake it till you make it is a good principle.

I also think that you only really gain confidence in life by confronting and then mastering things which you previously found daunting. Pushing yourself to do things which scare you -- even if you fuck them up.

This really. I decide on the person I want to be and then practice until I am.

Or decide it's over rated and do something different. 😉 I aspire to be one of those chic women with a capsule wardrobe and immaculate hair. But I can't be arsed to go shopping...

In a work environment I steel myself to be heard and to make my point. I pick my battles which helps. Research it well, be firm in your opinion and be able to back it up. Apologise immediately if you get it wrong. It wins respect. But don't grovel. It's very easy to offer a firm opinion with a "what am I missing?"

Also look around and see if people are telling you to be more confident. Research has found women are told to be more confident when they are no less confident than men but it becomes accurate because if you're told for 10 years you need to be more confident then it's bound to start taking its toll. So if you have people like that then ignore them!