To send DH some passive aggressive texts.

[Picklesbaby]

I’m joking , I think.
Dh working away , very drunk in the hotel bar past 3 nights. Due home tomorrow at 2pm (I’m off to work 2pm while 10pm) Back from site today 3.30pm ,his phone on red. I asked if he was going to the room to charge it and he says yes he will ring soon . It’s still off. I’m already getting annoyed at the thought of him moaning how tired he his , how hard the baby is to get to sleep , how “most men “ don’t do their fair share of childcare. I’m probably being unreasonable given that I was annoyed at him even before he left imagining him sleeping (like actually sleeping all night) , in a king size bed all alone.. and he hasn’t been out in over a year ,but it’s still tempting to send a “have a good night then.” text.

Don’t send him a passive aggressive text. Wait til he gets home and then sit down and tell him calmly and clearly how you feel. Relationships are about communication - particularly when small children are involved. This isn’t about this one moment; clearly you feel you’re getting a raw deal overall. You need to talk about it honestly and openly and hear his side too. If he’s a good man, that will be the start of things improving.

He sounds like a twat. Leave the kids with him regularly when he's home.

Don't sent a passive aggressive text, but do have a proper conversation about allocation of responsibilities when he gets back.

YABU. Sending passive aggressive texts is always unreasonable, all it does is build tension and resentment.

If he thinks ‘most men’ don’t care for their children then he sounds horrible and sexist. He also sounds selfish and moany. In your shoes I’d tell him he’s making you seriously unhappy. Although he’ll probably say most men do what they like and most men’s wives don’t nag them.

@tallduckandhandsome the voice inside me is screaming this 😂

Your right about feeling I’ve got the raw end of the deal. He does no house work /cooking but because he does long hours when he’s home &childcare (2 nights 1 weekend day )while I’m working, I somehow feel unfair to want more . I just don’t feel ready to hear what a “hard week” he’s had . Also maybe slightly jealous I’m not in the bar or anywhere else for hours on end .