My DH and I have been invited to the wedding of a long term (20+ years) friend's son in September. On the same date, my DH has a plan for a weekend away with mates. This has been re-arranged following a covid enforced cancellation in 2020. Initially it was for a sports event but, of course, the actual event has not been rescheduled for the September date, it is unlikely to happen til 2022 at the earliest.I'm sure that DH will arrange to attend the rearranged event.The trip involves a flight.So basically, a random date when all parties were free was chosen (in March - wedding invite received April).
Despite no flights/accommodation being firmly booked, my DH has said he cannot come to the wedding as he does not want to let down this group of (reasonably long term via work) mates, should the trip actually happen. I'm sure DH could contact the group, they have a group chat, and ask if the trip is likely to happen and/or would there be an issue to re-arrange the date.Apparently two of the blokes have actually booked accommodation but I'm sure they could alter it.
Who knows if it will be allowable in September. Fuck the secrecy- it is Dublin from England.
I should point out that DH enjoys a wedding and this is going to be a fabulous event. We met the parents of the groom at the same time (so not really more MY friends).
The hosts are quite happy for me to attend alone which I will if necessary, but AIBU to think DH is wrong to prioritise a mates 'potential' weekend with no defining reason for that particular date, over a definite event involving people we love.
I know some MNetters dislike weddings but, if you could put that aside, and just tell me if DH has incorrect priorities putting a booze up over a wedding or are his loyalties correct?