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To make a complaint or let it go?

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GdayChap · 22/07/2021 05:14

I gave birth to my son 4 months ago and something that happened after labour is still bothering me quite a bit now.

Labour was 20hrs and after my son had been born he was placed on my chest whilst the midwife was doing my stitches.

I started to feel really unwell and DH said I looked like I was going in and out of consciousness. I remember telling the midwives to please take DS off me as I was burning. DH said he also asked them if something was wrong because my head kept dropping back.

I must have asked about 4 times for them to please take DS because something wasn't right but they kept saying no because it was good for bonding.

Anyway, I ended up throwing up over myself and telling DH I thought I was dying and he took DS off me. They then checked my stats which showed my oxygen had gone right down and my temp was very high and I had to be put on oxygen and lost consciousness for a while. My son also needed to have his temp brought down because he was too hot after being left on me when I'd asked for him to be taken off.

Should I just forget this now or do I contact the hospital and say something or at least ask why it happened? Its still on my mind and I remember genuinely thinking I was going to die and no one was listening. DH kept being told to come away whilst they were doing the stitches when he was trying to help me until he eventually ignored them and took DS off me like I'd been asking someone to do.

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Cancellingadvice · 22/07/2021 05:20

I’m sure someone more knowledgeable will be along later but I think you can ask for a birth debrief. Maybe start with PALS

Standrewsschool · 22/07/2021 05:28

I think you need to say something. Write to Pals or the head of the department. Ask for an explanation as to what happened and why you weren’t being listened to.

If you don’t, it will bother you forever. It needn’t even be a complaint, but a request for information as to what happened and why.

Congratulations on your gorgeous baby.

I remember when my eldest dc was born there was panic. I was poorly at the time and exhausted so wasn’t really sure what was going on. Did he lack oxygen? He’s 21 now, and I’m still not sure what happened, apart from a vague image of him being passed to someone. I wished I’d asked more then.

GdayChap · 22/07/2021 09:13

Thank you. I will look into the birth debrief too.

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