To think my friend is being ridiculous?

[vorahn]

I've name changed incase my friend is on here.

DD is 14, almost 15. She's been with her boyfriend for a few months. He's got a very big family so he babysits the younger children regularly. Today, DD messaged me and asked if her boyfriend could come back here. I said yes and they brought a 1yo back, he's a baby her boyfriend was babysitting, her boyfriend said he didn't want the baby to be out in the sun (which was sensible) I was fine with this and they looked after the baby by themselves, they fed him etc. My friend popped in and they were outside, my friend asked who the baby was and I told her that DD was babysitting him with her boyfriend. My friend then said I shouldn't have allowed this as it could make them want a baby ().

Wibu for allowing this? Or was my friend being ridiculous?

What a weird thing to say! Also think it’s more likely to put them off

Agree with PPs. More likely to act as a form of contraception , ime.

Completely agree with PPs it will put them off if anything.

The majority of the time young people want the idea of having a baby and family but if they understood how difficult it is then they definitely wouldn’t.
I wish every teen could look after a one year old every now and then!

@Freecuthbert

Yes, your friend is being ridiculous. If anything it'll put them off wanting a child.

This.

Couldn't agree more.
Your friend is bonkers.

We always say that babysitting in our teens was a very effective natural contraceptive.

I don't think it would encourage them to want a baby, but I disagree that it would always put them off. There are many families with teens who have young siblings, where the teens still go on to have children in young adulthood. 11 year gap between me and my sister, then the same between my sister and my child, then 13 years between my child and my sister's child.

@Hankunamatata

Totally normal esp in big families. He has probably been changing nappies since he was in primary

Yup. I’m the eldest of a big family and was looking after whoever the youngest ones were at any one point since the age of 11, if not before. I mean solo — when an adult was around in the background it was far earlier.