Moral Dilemma

[CantBelieveImHere]

I very rarely post on here but do lurk a fair bit, but the last time I did I had some very helpful advice.
Now my dilemma is....
Someone I use to know spilt with her bf a few months back, he has moved on very happy.
BUT she is now going round telling people he use to physically abused her which I know is a major lie.
She has always been known to lie and spin any story to make herself look like the victim, so that she gets sympathy and attention.
Would I be unreasonable to tell him what lies she is spreading as this could have major ramifications for him and as a survivor of this kind of abuse myself I feel disgusted that anyone could lie about it.

stay out of the whole thing!!

She may well have experienced past abuse or neglect that leads her to say these things. Its never simple.

Have you spoken to Her ? 🌸

YANBU. Every time someone makes up a false allegation like this, it makes justice that little bit more difficult for genuine victims.

@CantBelieveImHere

Because I have known this person a long time and what she is capable of, and I have been on the receiving end of her abuse many times, that is why she is someone i use to know and currently have nothing to do with because of her abusive tendencies. Plus people have witnessed her physically and verbally abusing her ex bf in public.

Right. But none of that means she is lying about this. If you feel sure that this man is being lied about in this way then by all means, tell him. But nothing you’ve said has made me think you’re right about her lying. Even unpleasant people can find themselves victims of abuse.

Stay out of it.

He dated her, his breakup problem.

Keep out of it. Nothing good can come of wading into that.