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To want him to tell his parents…

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Magentaberet · 20/07/2021 23:32

That we’re no longer together?

Our financial situation means we’ve got to stay living together for the foreseeable, we also have a DS who is a toddler and we’ve decided to co-parent him between ourselves.

Anyway, we’re still interacting with my DP’s parents who live nearby, when he sees or speaks to them he doesn’t tell them anything. As far as I’m aware, they think that our relationship is stable and despite some bickering, we’re still together.
Which is the complete opposite to reality, we haven’t had sex for 10 months and we’re sleeping in separate bedrooms.

I don’t understand why he won’t tell them, when I ask him why he gets upset or annoyed/angry at me and when I’ve told him I’m telling them if he doesn’t, he says he doesn’t want me to.
So every time I see his parents (at least once a week as they do childcare for us) I have to act as if everything is fine. He’s even mentioned us all go round there for dinner this weekend!
I think a big part of it is that he feels like a disappointment to them for other reasons such we career. In comparison to his siblings too, who both have really good jobs and are happily married/settled. They’re also rather old fashioned and over 70, they believe in staying together for the child.

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TimeForTeaAndG · 20/07/2021 23:34

You don't have to tell them but you also don't have to lie for him.

Dixiechickonhols · 21/07/2021 00:10

No I wouldn’t go along with charade. He needs to tell them by x or you will.

ILoveYouILoveYouIDo · 21/07/2021 00:12

Just tell them yourself. MYv

ILoveYouILoveYouIDo · 21/07/2021 00:12

Its probably upsetting him because it means its real when they find out.

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