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AIBU to not invite my sister's partner to my son's birthday?

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Moelwynbach · 20/07/2021 19:58

My sister lives abroad and needs fairly major surgery tomorrow. Our parents have paid for the surgery privately as she needed it sooner rather than later. They have parted with 10,000 altogethe. She has isolated two weeks prior and will isolate two weeks post operation at their house.
Two days before isolation she arrives with her partner at my parents house. partner is a lazy arse and lives a comfortable love spending her cash. He is a bigoted oaf with the intelligence of a guppy fish.
He left my parents very early on coz he was bored and went to visit his family. None of his mates wanted to see him (probably coz he doesn't have any) and he is due to arrive back at my parents the day of her operation. They have all isolated he is refusing both a lateral flow or PCR test and is happy to put my sister at risk coz he is an idiot.
My sister has been totally manipulated by him and has thrown a strop with our lovely parents who agreed to let him back in. My mum got upset and spoke to my aunt who has told me what happened.
I rang my sister and have her an ultimatum she would tell him to have the PCR or I will.
I'm disappointed in her for allowing him to put her at risk, manipulating my very non assertive parents and putting the large amount of money they have invested in her health at risk all because he is a twonk.
He reluctantly agreed God knows what his opinion is of me I don't care and he will bring his PCT test to their house.
It's my son's birthday party the day before they fly back she will not have seen him for 12 months. I want to invite my sister but don't want want him to be there because of the selfish attitude towards my sister and parents. Heavens knows what he would do if he didn't come as he flies back home so is staying with them.

Talk me down help me to see reason!

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Fullofglee · 20/07/2021 20:02

Does your sister need drama after major surgery op? Arrange the party after they fly.

Theunamedcat · 20/07/2021 20:02

I would say she is welcome but to leave him at home he isnt family he isnt a friend of childs either

Moelwynbach · 20/07/2021 20:05

@Fullofglee it's al booked and paid forShock

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Moelwynbach · 20/07/2021 20:06

@Fullofglee you are right she doesn't. I am annoyed at her but wouldn't want to cause a ruckus it's not my style.

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Moelwynbach · 20/07/2021 20:08

@Theunamedcat that would involve him being at my parents house alone......he's just going to have to come isn't he?

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ScaredOfDinosaurs · 20/07/2021 20:11

He is likely to take it out on her in some way if you exclude him. I agree he sounds awful and would not want him there, but it may be the best plan to just suck it up.

Do you have anyone who can babysit him at the gathering and keep him out of your face?

Moelwynbach · 20/07/2021 20:14

@ScaredOfDinosaurs I'm an excellent actor. I can be nice and civil and have a ve th long patience. I'm be the than any arguments he wants to pick. Ultimate revenge is not engaging makes the argued look a right arse. Just smile and move on.Grin

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