Am I over thinking this?

[Wingingiteveryda]

My mother in law watches my son a day a week. He's two years old and very chatty. He's recently started calling our house "daddy's house" I didn't think much of it until I heard my mother in law refer to our marital home as "daddies house" to him when we were travelling home recently (without my partner) and again at a family party whilst speaking to family.
I mentioned this to my partner and he doesn't see the big deal but if I'm honest it's not sitting well with me. To me it sounds like our son lives with his dad rather than with his family. Not that it actually matters but our house is jointly owned by the pair of us and we worked very hard to get our deposit together a couple years ago.
Would I be unreasonable to ask that this stop and they simply refer to our house as my son's home? Or am I being oversensitive and overreacting?

YANBU

It’s home, not daddies house.

I think you are reasonable

I'm just wondering how your husband might feel, if he heard your mother referring to your joint owned house as 'Mummy's house'?

I call the house I share with DH and children my house or my home when talking to people. I’m assuming there has to be a big back story because otherwise it’s not normal for something as innocuous to be worth a thread.

I’d be clipping that one short very early on. I’d ask her directly what she means. But I’m a bit feisty like that

@Blue4YOU

I’d be clipping that one short very early on. I’d ask her directly what she means. But I’m a bit feisty like that

I think you are entirely reasonable. Feisty is different, this is just unpleasant or at least, thoughtless.

YANBU - she's a nob

That’s bizarre!

I’d pick her up on it and say, ‘Daddy’s house! what do you mean?! It’s his home!’

Taking a child home but referring to it as going to x’s house is weird.

I’d also correct him when he says it.

That is weird. My inaws would say "mummy & daddies" house. Is there a back ground story? Does she like you,

YANBU because surely she would just refer to it as ‘your house’ when speaking to your son? As in his own home, just like you would say ‘our house’ when speaking to him. It’s an odd way of phrasing it.

Could he visit them at grandad's house?

My generally tolerant husband is fuming about this, he said he would rather pay for childcare and he is normally very quiet. The joys if living with a school principal home for months

It’s a bit odd and annoying. Not sure it’s worth a fight over though. I imagine you and oh say “our home” so I’m sure that will be the lasting impression your soon keeps.

@Nengineer

My generally tolerant husband is fuming about this, he said he would rather pay for childcare and he is normally very quiet. The joys if living with a school principal home for months

Are you the OP?

Confused as to why your DH is fuming?!

I imagine she used to call it ‘Ian’s house’ and hasn’t made the metal leap that it is also ‘Ian Jr’s house’

I call my grandparent’s house ‘nanny’s house’ no idea why just can’t be bothered to say both names 🤷🏻‍♀️

Genuinely couldn't give a tissue about this, I mean, does it really matter??? Some of you sound very young....trust me, in years to come you'll look back and realise this has no bearing on your life whatsoever!
Pick your battles, this isn't one thats worth it...

A tissue???? That was supposed to say 'toss'...really should preview my posts!!!

To be fair to her I suspect this was just silly turn of phrase.

But it is sexist and insensitive and I don’t think you’re overthinking. Nor would I want my child growing up assuming houses were things daddies own and mummies live in. I would have pulled her up on it (outside toddler’s earshot).

I think you are being a bit precious.

When I talk to my grandchildren I refer to my home as "nanny's house".

It is actually "nanny and grandad's house" but I don't think they are going to grow up believing that I am the sole owner and that grandad doesn't live here.

Surprised at these answers I reckon my Mum would say your going back to Mummys house later and my MIL might say Daddys house but neither of them would mean it in a bad way they are just referencing it from their own childs point of view. Wouldnt bother me.

Unless there is a back story you seem very sensitive about this. I think lots of people would say mummy's house, grandma's house . Weird if she said it in front of you but otherwise it is just a turn of phrase.

You have heard her say it but was that when only you were there . I couldn't get worked up about it.

Sorry, I don't get most of these answers. Surely as a GP you say 'home' as in 'your home', 'going home'. I can't think of any circumstances when you'd need to label it as anyone's house. I found that one of the really odd things when I separated, talking to my children about 'going home with dad' and 'coming home with mum'. He turned to a bit of a dick after we separated and eventually it became 'home' and 'dad's' - so much easier, if not, unfortunately, for my children.

This is something my DP's family do. They refer to our house as "DP's house". It's always mildly pissed me off but I've never been able to put my finger on why.

‘Our DP’ used to wind me up - he’s ex now so they are welcome to him 😂