AIBU to want to go away with my sister and our kids without our husbands?

[Holidaysanshusbands]

I was going to take my 3 kids to visit my sister at her house for a few days (leaving my husband at home with our dog) but then thought it might be more of a break to go away to an Airbnb with my sister and her 2 kids. I found a suitable Airbnb that fit us all in, in a nice location and my sister was keen. However, her husband is now objecting to this arrangement and feels it is the most unreasonable suggestion he has ever heard to exclude him from a 3 night break. I don’t think it’s unheard of for one parent to take their kids away for a few nights but he tells me I am being unreasonable. So AIBU???

My husband just took the kids away with his sister for three nights for the second year in a row. It’s the best time I have all year! Totally normal it’s just a three night air bnb break, not like you’re going a holiday of a lifetime without him.

Did you miss the 'perhaps'?

I was giving an opinion. OP didn't say he was disappointed about not getting away with his family. OP said he felt it was the most unreasonable thing he'd ever heard....

If I was missing out on something like this I'd possibly suggest and alternative, not through my toys out.

that was to BillyWhozz

Jeez,

an alternative
throw my toys out

On hearing it was an option to have the house to himself for 3 days, he would book and pay for it himself. He would also wave us off with a smile i think I last saw on our wedding day 😂

What’s wrong with him that he won’t allow a 3 day ‘break’ for his wife with her sister and 5 children. Why has he not arranged a family holiday if he’s so concerned about spending time with his kids, he’s plenty time on his hands if he hasn’t worked for a year! Seems a very controlling man!! He should maybe find employment to occupy his time and stop being a twat

Has he actually told you any of this or is your sister saying it? If the former you and your DS don’t need to consider it. If the latter then maybe your DS has changed her mind now and is letting you down gently.

@Ozanj it was he who spoke to me! The problem has been resolved as he has now booked an Airbnb for his family to stay in which is fairly close to ours so we will be able to meet up with them. Thanks for the balanced input everybody!

YANBU… I’d love it if my husband went away and took our child for a few days and I know he would! God… peace and quiet out the garden please !

@Puffthemagicdragongoestobed

My DH would be delighted

Exactly, I'm sure that most mothers on here would be delighted to have the house to themselves for a few days too!

Too controlling. Booking an air bnb to ensure he gets to go. Ridiculous, petulant behaviour. He should be using the time in the house alone to look focus on looking for work instead of fixating on a break away.

YABU because you expected everyone to acquiesce when you changed your mind. It's quite rude, when someone is expecting to host you, to suddenly book something else. Different families have different approaches to holidays. Perhaps your DSIS wasn't really keen and knew she could use her DH as an excuse. Perhaps they have an agreement about holidays that you stomped over. Perhaps your DBIL is selfish. Perhaps your attitude to him doesn't help.

How can you pass comment on a situation you don’t know anything about? Unless you are in a same controlled relationship. How is it unreasonable to pass 3 days with your sister at an Airbnb . Not as if it was a mad weekend in Ibiza. And how come he can suddenly book something now . Total control if you ask me

If i'm taking the kids I wouldn't discuss it with my DH first, he would come second in the conversations. If I wanted to go without the kids then obviously I'd discuss with him first.

He sounds like a lazy controlling idiot.

You aren't unreasonable, but I can't imagine most families take their dc away from one parent without them agreeing to it.

It's between your sister and her husband really.