Should I warn cousin about potential abuse?

[Shesellsseashellsontheseafloor]

When I was 6 years old and staying with my cousins one time, my uncle came into the room where I was staying, drew back the covers and stroked my privates for a few moments before replacing the covers and creeping out. My cousins and I were all pretending to be asleep as we had stayed up past bedtime and then clambered into bed when we heard the grownups making moves to come up for the night. At the time I just froze, and didn’t say anything to anyone, not even my mum. It never happened again. Thirty years have now passed, and my cousin has had a baby girl. I have no idea whether my uncle ever did anything similar to my cousin when she was younger, or to anyone else for that matter, and to what extent. DH thinks I should warn my cousin that her daughter may be at risk one day in case she isn’t already aware. I’m not so sure. It could cause a lot of heartache for nothing. But then again it might save a little girl’s life from being ruined. What would you do?

I think it is unlikely to be an isolated incidence either. It was only when my DSIS and I were both adults that we realised we had both been abused by the same person.

Our abuser sadly died before any justice of any kind could happen but I would have warned anyone who was near him who had children. They might not believe you but you will sow a seed and they may take steps to protect their child even if they openly say they disbelieve you.

PS. I'm so sorry this happened to you

@Londono I’m sorry it happened to you too

Sad that the only apologies we are ever likely to receive are from anonymous strangers on the internet. Good luck with your next steps.