Husband wants to go to football/cricket in full stadia

[Hippo2021]

So now the world is opening up and all the rules are off, my sport-mad husband is understandably keen to get back to watching live matches.

I’m 28-weeks pregnant so moving into the ‘vulnerable’ phase, but we’re both double vaccinated (as of 2 days ago).

So am I being unreasonable in asking him to avoid football/cricket matches where all restrictions are off?

I accept that things are opening up and I feel a million times more confident going to shops and restaurants knowing I’m double jabbed, but the thought of him mingling with thousands of strangers really puts me on edge. Is anyone else having similar “debates” in their house?!

Am I just experiencing normal lockdown lifting anxiety, which I need to get over, or am I right to worry, as I head into the 3rd trimester?

@blinkthreetimes

Clearly no one should be leaving the house or caring about their hobbies or interests if they’re going to have a baby! You must only function for baby.

Nothing to do with being a ‘cool wife’- although I am pretty cool and was before I was a wife- I’m keen to get back to live music too, can’t wait to go to All Points East next month, so it’s swings and roundabouts.

YANBU to ask.

Depending on the specifics of where/when he would be going he WNBU to still go.

@Wearywithteens

Apparently it’s fine OP - the cool wives say it’s fine for your DH to do whatever he likes, whenever he likes. God forbid anyone questions a “sport-mad husband is understandably keen to get back to watching live matches” despite his wife being preoccupied with other matters.

Not the case here is it.

Cool wives. Such a lazy argument that people can't have their own opinions that might be in favour of a male PoV.

YANBU at all.
It's his baby too, why wouldn't he want to protect you and the baby?

I can't understand why people put so much faith in the vaccine and think we can go back "to normal" as soon as we have 2 jabs. If only it was true, but rates are proving it's not!

@Hippo2021

So now the world is opening up and all the rules are off, my sport-mad husband is understandably keen to get back to watching live matches.

I’m 28-weeks pregnant so moving into the ‘vulnerable’ phase, but we’re both double vaccinated (as of 2 days ago).

So am I being unreasonable in asking him to avoid football/cricket matches where all restrictions are off?

I accept that things are opening up and I feel a million times more confident going to shops and restaurants knowing I’m double jabbed, but the thought of him mingling with thousands of strangers really puts me on edge. Is anyone else having similar “debates” in their house?!

Am I just experiencing normal lockdown lifting anxiety, which I need to get over, or am I right to worry, as I head into the 3rd trimester?

Also whilst he may be "mingling" with thousands - how many would he be in close contact with for a significant period of time? 100 maybe? And if its a large enough sporting event there's a possibility of a vaccine passport being required as well, further slashing the risk.

@MrsSkylerWhite

Would certainly ask him to wait until you’re fully protected , 2 weeks after second jab.

This feels like a sensible compromise.

My husband did in fact come down with covid 5 days after he went to Wembley and he is double vaxxed. My son was with him and didn't get it. Having said that, he wasn't too poorly, didn't even spend a whole day in bed.

A lot of people are catching covid despite being double vaccinated. I don’t think you’re unreasonable to ask him not to go there whilst you are heavily pregnant.

Nothing about being a cool wife.

Just a very basic understanding that you can’t be locked in your house forever.

YABU.

We really, really need a term of reference for posters who use the term "cool wives" as an insult.

@blinkthreetimes

My husband is in a football fan facebook group that did a poll with its followers who'd been to Wembley for either the semi or the final who'd tested positive - it was something like 60%.

Well if that’s not gospel then I don’t know what is.

@blinkthreetimes

🤣🤣
🥂

@skippy67

We really, really need a term of reference for posters who use the term "cool wives" as an insult.

@skippy67

yes. let's do that

I'd say "jealous unsatisfied husband haters" should cover it but it doesn't quite roll off the tongue.

I propose "sour grapes"

I quite like that.

done
got logo sorted
😫🍇

you both need to wait 3 weeks after the 2nd jab for a start until you have better immunity and it certainly is no guarantee of not getting it as a couple of my friends have it at the moment although double vaxxed (both think from socialising in an indoor venue).

By then you will be entering the 3rd trimester, so you should check then what the latest guidance is for women in 3rd trimester.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

done got logo sorted 😫🍇

Good work.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba, maybe add a😡with a ⚽️ next to it?

@skippy67

👍

tbh I'm not only a cool wife, I'm a cool mum too. even my kids' friends love me.
heavy is the head that wears the massive tiara

I get your nerves. I’m now 38 weeks and nervous about husband getting it and not being able to be able to be at the birth, as well as me catching it. Not saying he can’t go and do stuff, he still has to go to work, but there are some risks that seem unnecessary at the moment. We both have first vaccine and will be getting second imminently but it’s a bit late . We did get them as soon as our age group was allowed though.

Agree the journey is the main issue.