To ask for ideas for a sort of Prom for DD and her ONE friend

[MouseontheLouse]

Don't laugh, I know it sounds sad. It is really.

Just had an email from DD's school saying Prom cancelled due to "unforeseen circumstances." Honestly, they are a shit school so I shouldn't be surprised.

Dd(16) is gutted. She and her one pal have outfits, hair, shoes all planned. Which is very brave of her as she's had a rough time at school and this would be a sort of goodbye to her pal who is (sob!) emigrating soon.

Has anyone had a prom at home sort of thing (not for masses of people)? Any ideas to make it Not Lame?

What a shame for them. How about a really posh afternoon tea at a fancy hotel if you've got one nearby. At least it means getting dressed up and leaving the house

What is 'lame' in their opinion? What do they like? Things I'd think fun like a balloon/floral arch for photos, selfie Station etc may be laughable to them #imnotcooltoteens

Could you decorate the dining room or a gazebo and then play chef/waiter to do a "posh" meal for them? Get her pal to bring photos or other random things that remind them of good times and let them do lots of "do you remember"? Pose for some nice photos you can take of the two of them together in their outfits?

Yes to a posh meal. If dd's prom wasn't going ahead (a group of parents have reorganised) then they would have been going in their friendship group to the bistro at a local hotel all in their finery.

I don't think there's any way to make it Not Lame unless you and your daughter live in Stars Hollow.

@muddledmidget

What a shame for them. How about a really posh afternoon tea at a fancy hotel if you've got one nearby. At least it means getting dressed up and leaving the house

That's a lovely idea. Perhaps they could get nails done together beforehand? Your poor DD, OP. I hope she moves on to a good college and makes some nice friends

Have you spoke to DD about this? Maybe the kids will be making some alternative arrangements themselves?

Could you do all the getting ready bits, photos in the garden, a glass of prosecco each (if you're happy with that) then book a limo/nice car to take them out for a meal? You could meet them there and let them have the car ride as their own thing. Possibly less noticeably "sad" than trying to recreate a whole dance with just two of them in the lounge. Then come back and put on a slideshow of their friendship (just in ppt or something and cast to the TV) set to one of the tearjerker songs, maybe have some mocktails for them, see if anyone has any disco lights you can borrow, get some nice balloons from amazon to decorate with, then sleepover?

It is shit, I feel for them, and if they don't have a big group they'll be able to hangout with instead not much will really replace it x

I love microwaves idea. Getting ready and limo out, lovely photos and a real fuss, I'd you can spare the cash.

#imnotcooltoteens

Me neither

Your poor DD, OP. I hope she moves on to a good college and makes some nice friends

That's very kind. She's off to a college attended by some of her friends from her sports team so hopefully happier times ahead.

Ds's mate just hired a limo for his 18th birthday as his London theatre tri had to be cancelled. He and ds were driven round in it for an hour with fake fizz )neither of them drink) then they went out for a meal with his family.

@MouseontheLouse

#imnotcooltoteens

Me neither

Your poor DD, OP. I hope she moves on to a good college and makes some nice friends

That's very kind. She's off to a college attended by some of her friends from her sports team so hopefully happier times ahead.

Ah good